You get what you deserve..not what you want...and if you deserve what you want then your set up for success

4 months after I was born, my mom went back to University to get her degree. I'm her third child. She left me and my siblings with our Dad and paternal grandma and came home only weekends for three years until she finished her degree. She left 3 under-5 and went to pursue her career. At 28, she was doing her NYSC and pregnant with her 4th child. At 40, she already had her master's degree. She has been a civil servant since 1993. Now, at 61, she is at the peak of her career. A level 17 officer, Permanent Secretary grade. (Edit - Note: in 2023, Delta State increased retirement age from 60 to 65.) My aunty who was my mother's secondary mate and got married same year my mother got married, didn't continue with her education like my mom did. She had three children and tried to go back in her 40s when her last child was in secondary school, but she was only able to acquire tc2 (or whatever they call it). At the long run. My mom raised four successful biological children. My aunty raised three successful biological children. No, my aunty's children did NOT turn out better just because she gave up career and dreams to raise them. If you are measuring success based on wealth and quality and level of education, we are far ahead. There are no studies, research or statistics that indicate that children of stay-at-home mothers do better. If I could be asked to choose between an illiterate mother who stayed at home throughout my childhood and gave up career just to watch me VERSUS my mother who is a top/senior civil servant at the peak of her career, a boss in the office and boss at home, I would DEFINITELY choose the latter, and I'm glad that the latter is my reality. My father told me that he had opportunity to travel to the US or UK when I was just four. He was to travel there for research and enroute into becoming a university lecturer/professor. But he turned down the opportunity because he wanted to be there to watch his children grow every minute. Do you know what I told him? I told him that he should have gone. Some of my siblings also told him he should have gone. Imagine the children he stayed for telling him that he should have gone. My father's colleague who also got same offer went and came back for his family one year later. So, I told my father that leaving his family for a year or two would have been a worthwhile sacrifice to pay for a better future. He should have gone and come back for us a year or two later. My father was a very successful man, more educated than my mother and also got to the peak of his career, but not half as successful as he would have been if he had taken some risks, including leaving his children for a year or two. Why am I writing all these? For those women who abandon their dreams, careers and aspirations because of their children. Someday, your children who you abandoned your career for will ask you WHY? They will tell you that you should have pursued your career. Like I said, my father sacrificed career progression for us his children. My mother did NOT sacrifice career pursuit for anybody. While I understand the sacrifice my father made, as a grown adult, I still think my mother made the better choice. So, my dear women/mothers, I can tell you that at the long run, your children would be most proud of you if you pursue your career and achieve great career heights. I went back to full-time studies January to December 2024. I had my daughter in-between in April 2024. I got an extra degree and with that, I'm applying for jobs and negotiating salaries more than twice my salary in my last job. It wasn't easy doing that while nursing a baby, but I did it. My children would grow up seeing a strong mommy who didn't abandon her dreams. I want my daughter to know that she should never abandon her dream or chosen career for any reason or anyone. I don't want my children to ask me WHY? It's not easy combining academic/career and family. But nothing good comes too easily. Just do your best within your power and the opportunity and resources available to you. Copied ✍️

#favour #Godsunshine13 Success and Achievement 1. *"Believe you can and you're halfway there."* - Theodore Roosevelt 2. *"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop."* - Confucius 3. *"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."* - Winston Churchill KEEP PUSHING EVEN AT THE DARKNESS MOMENTS OF STORMS THERE'S ALWAYS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL 👏👏👏💃💃💃💃💃💃💃🎉🎉🎉🏆🏆🏆🏆💪💪 BECAUSE YOU WERE THE STRONGEST AMONG EVERYONE HERE VICTORY IS ALWAYS THE GOALS

Focus on your Nakupenda journery..Put in the efforts and commitment it needs. You will surely record Success in years coming soon🔮 #happiness #AWESOMEGOD

Unity is a powerful tool in achieving great success in the family and the nation. #Ngo_123 #grace

Success is not for the chosen few — it’s for the few who choose to act daily. #Happiness #Nakupenda

Good morning famz #Ijesuccess #Happiness

#GODSUNSHINE13 #FAVOUR To help you achieve your goals, I'll provide a simple framework. Please feel free to modify it according to your needs. Today's Goal 1. *Specific goal*: Clearly define what you want to achieve today. 2. *Measurable outcome*: Quantify your goal to track progress. 3. *Achievable target*: Ensure your goal is realistic and attainable. Action Plan 1. *Break down the goal*: Divide the goal into smaller, manageable tasks. 2. *Prioritize tasks*: Focus on the most important tasks first. 3. *Create a schedule*: Allocate time for each task and set deadlines. Staying Focused 1. *Minimize distractions*: Eliminate or reduce distractions during work hours. 2. *Take breaks*: Take regular breaks to recharge and stay focused. 3. *Stay motivated*: Remind yourself of the goal and celebrate small wins. Review and Adjust 1. *Track progress*: Monitor your progress throughout the day. 2. *Adjust the plan*: Make adjustments as needed to stay on track. 3. *Celebrate success*: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements at the end of the day. What's your specific goal for today? LET YOUR MIND BE BRAVE TO SAY I SPEAK POSITIVE THOUGHTS IN TODAY'S GOALS #FAVOUR #GODSUNSHINE13 #TEAM C

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.

THE IGBO ENTREPRENEURSHIP SYSTEM - The Strategy That Built Obi Cubana Have you ever wondered … How did the Igbo people rise from losing everything after the war, to becoming one of the most entrepreneurial tribes in Africa? Let me tell you a story. So After the Nigerian civil war, the Igbos were left with nothing. According to history, people who had thousands in their accounts were only given £20. Businesses destroyed. Hope shattered. That’s how the new system treated them; broke, broken, and abandoned. They didn’t sit down and complain. They started again. From scratch. From the ground up. That's the spirit of the Igbo Chi. But they didn’t do it alone. They used a system, one powerful principle: “Never Leave Your Brother.” If you’re selling biscuits and need to buy Lipton, you go to your brother’s shop. Even if his price is a bit higher ; you still buy from him. That’s how Igbos built their own economy from inside. They called it “Onye Aghala Nwanne Ya ” - "Don’t leave your brother behind." This was more than business. It was survival. It was loyalty. It was strategy. They built communities. They trained one another through apprenticeship (Igba Boi). They lifted each other from trenches to triumph. They created chains of value - and chains of trust. And no one represents this model today better than Obi Cubana He started small - one nightclub in Abuja. But he didn’t rise alone. He surrounded himself with people he empowered , and they, in turn, empowered him. Today, many of his “boys” are millionaires, and they’re all still connected. That’s what made his mum’s burial a historic moment it wasn’t about showing off, it was about community wealth. Now His 50th birthday was a blast. From Business Men to superstars to sports players they all gathered to pay homage . You might wondering what a popular pastor was doing at the event ? He is Igbo right ? He came to pay homage to his brother who built from scratch. That’s the Igbo system. Build. Empower. Don’t leave your brother. That's why Anywhere you see an Igbo person there must be a community. That's how the Igbos grow ❤️ That's how they were able to bounce back and become the most proporous ethnic group in Africa As Obi Cubana celebrates his 50th birthday, I see more than a successful man. I see a case study of Igbo resilience, strategy, and communal growth. If you're building something today, I want you to ask yourself: Are you lifting others as you rise? Are you creating value or just chasing money? Are you building a system, or are you walking alone? Because wealth built alone is fragile. But wealth built in brotherhood is eternal. Obi Cubana didn’t just make money. He made men. He made systems. He made history. And that, my friend, is the secret of Igbo entrepreneurship. Start now to build men. #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou

Happy Palm Sunday famz #Ijesuccess #Happiness

*SUCCESS IS A DECISION!* Every day, people make choices. 💥 *Some are earning*—because they took action. 💥 *Some are watching*—waiting for the "perfect moment" that never comes. 💥 *Some are joining*—seeking a breakthrough. 💥 *Some are leaving*—because they didn’t see results fast enough. 💥 *Some have joined, but not working*—hoping success will come without effort. 💥 *Some are confirmed spectators*—always watching, never doing. 💥 *Some don't know why they joined the group*—lost in indecision. 💥 *Some joined, but don't know what is happening*—because they never asked or learned. 💥 *Some joined to copy and paste*—but success isn’t a shortcut, it’s a journey. But no matter where you stand today, *ONE THING IS SURE:* ✅ Success is not about luck. ✅ Success is not about talent. ✅ Success is a *DECISION.* #happiness