Reality can be beautiful. Let's embrace and share positive energies. #nakupenda

4 months after I was born, my mom went back to University to get her degree. I'm her third child. She left me and my siblings with our Dad and paternal grandma and came home only weekends for three years until she finished her degree. She left 3 under-5 and went to pursue her career. At 28, she was doing her NYSC and pregnant with her 4th child. At 40, she already had her master's degree. She has been a civil servant since 1993. Now, at 61, she is at the peak of her career. A level 17 officer, Permanent Secretary grade. (Edit - Note: in 2023, Delta State increased retirement age from 60 to 65.) My aunty who was my mother's secondary mate and got married same year my mother got married, didn't continue with her education like my mom did. She had three children and tried to go back in her 40s when her last child was in secondary school, but she was only able to acquire tc2 (or whatever they call it). At the long run. My mom raised four successful biological children. My aunty raised three successful biological children. No, my aunty's children did NOT turn out better just because she gave up career and dreams to raise them. If you are measuring success based on wealth and quality and level of education, we are far ahead. There are no studies, research or statistics that indicate that children of stay-at-home mothers do better. If I could be asked to choose between an illiterate mother who stayed at home throughout my childhood and gave up career just to watch me VERSUS my mother who is a top/senior civil servant at the peak of her career, a boss in the office and boss at home, I would DEFINITELY choose the latter, and I'm glad that the latter is my reality. My father told me that he had opportunity to travel to the US or UK when I was just four. He was to travel there for research and enroute into becoming a university lecturer/professor. But he turned down the opportunity because he wanted to be there to watch his children grow every minute. Do you know what I told him? I told him that he should have gone. Some of my siblings also told him he should have gone. Imagine the children he stayed for telling him that he should have gone. My father's colleague who also got same offer went and came back for his family one year later. So, I told my father that leaving his family for a year or two would have been a worthwhile sacrifice to pay for a better future. He should have gone and come back for us a year or two later. My father was a very successful man, more educated than my mother and also got to the peak of his career, but not half as successful as he would have been if he had taken some risks, including leaving his children for a year or two. Why am I writing all these? For those women who abandon their dreams, careers and aspirations because of their children. Someday, your children who you abandoned your career for will ask you WHY? They will tell you that you should have pursued your career. Like I said, my father sacrificed career progression for us his children. My mother did NOT sacrifice career pursuit for anybody. While I understand the sacrifice my father made, as a grown adult, I still think my mother made the better choice. So, my dear women/mothers, I can tell you that at the long run, your children would be most proud of you if you pursue your career and achieve great career heights. I went back to full-time studies January to December 2024. I had my daughter in-between in April 2024. I got an extra degree and with that, I'm applying for jobs and negotiating salaries more than twice my salary in my last job. It wasn't easy doing that while nursing a baby, but I did it. My children would grow up seeing a strong mommy who didn't abandon her dreams. I want my daughter to know that she should never abandon her dream or chosen career for any reason or anyone. I don't want my children to ask me WHY? It's not easy combining academic/career and family. But nothing good comes too easily. Just do your best within your power and the opportunity and resources available to you. Copied ✍️

Great dreams begins with dreamers but that's not really important cause anybody can just dream but every achievement is gotten by those who has the audacity to strive until the dream comes to reality, so what are you? You're left to answer are you a dreamer or you make dreams come to Life. #Focus #team5

#Nakupenda 💖 The human brain struggles to grasp exponential growth. That’s why we expect massive results after a few weeks of effort — and get disheartened when progress is slow. But here’s the reality: meaningful success is built on small actions repeated consistently over time. James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, says it best: “The effects of your habits multiply as you repeat them.”

We have a positive vision of the future founded on the belief that the gap between the promise and reality of America can one day be finally closed. We believe that.

#Reality You Become What You Consistently Feed On Just as our bodies reflect the kind of food we consume—healthy or unhealthy—so do our minds and souls mirror the kind of information, news, and resources we allow in. A person who constantly listens to negative news and toxic information will soon find their thoughts, speech, and actions drenched in negativity. It shows in how they talk, how they act, and how they treat others. On the other hand, someone who feeds on uplifting, positive, and life-giving content will naturally radiate hope, joy, and strength. Their words build up. Their actions encourage. Their presence inspires. People may not always notice what you're feeding on—but they’ll always see the fruit it bears. Guard your heart, mind, and soul. Because you become what you consistently feed on.

Remember, every great accomplishment started with a single step. Every success story began with a dream, a vision, and a willingness to take action. You have the power to create the life you want, to achieve your goals, and to make your dreams a reality. Goodnight family.. #wearebuilders 💪

Whatever your mind conceives, comes to play in reality therefore, fill your mind with positivity always.... It's a beautiful morning do well to spread your wings and win. Shalom #sperahenry #grace

Happy Sunday everyone #happinessisareality😊

Earlier today after curating news for a brand that I work with, this old song came to my mind, "Do you have a dream and do you wanna let it die" Who else knows that song ? I sang the short lyrics I could remember then I sat down to think about it. Dreams don't just come to reality, you need to consciously work towards them, if you really want to achieve them. Yo!!! Go work on your dreams baby One love🤍💯 #grace #LilyWealth.

Reality can be beautiful. Let's embrace and share positive energies. #Grateful. ESTHER

If a Dummy could look this good, you already know what the real cake will look like 🥰🥰🥰 We bake it into reality