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#Waskydone #Spreadthelove My father called and complained that rain removed our roof. So I sent some money to fix the problem. When I traveled home for the holidays, I noticed that the old roofing was still intact. I called daddy and enquired, he smiled and replied "when you were in school collecting money from us for photosynthesis, medulla oblongata, experiments, repair of broken atmosphere etc, you think we didn't know? Now it's our turn. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

one time my dad came in, saw me in the living room, picked up his phone and called his wife to ask where she was, saying he was home and didn’t meet anyone,me that greeted you nko?

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The Only Nigerian That Will Vote At The Vatican For A New Pope God has a way of lifting people, this Cardinal was once rejected by a community in Imo State when he was appointed a Bishop of their Diocese They insisted that , they don't want a " stranger " to superintendent over their zone , they insisted on having their " son " as their Bishop Funny enough , he is an Igbo man too The case was so intensed that the Catholic Church in Nigeria couldn't resolve the matter, until a signal came from Rome that he should be transferred to another place As God would have it , few years later , the rejected stone was elevated and made a Cardinal, he is now one of the top Cardinals in Rome that will vote for the next Pope Cardinal Okpaleke who was rejected at home , is now a hero abroad. Uwa ntooo #Paddylay

™ I went to Jeremy's school yesterday. I went and parked in front of the school. It was the same spot I parked on Tuesday when I came to look for him. When the school had closed, I stepped down from the car, I was anxiously watching to see Jeremy walk out of the gate. I waited for a while and suddenly, I saw him amongst a group of friends strolling out. One of his friends tapped him on his back and pointed to me. Jeremy screamed in excitement. "Daddy..." And ran to me. He embraced me warmly. His friends came to say hello to me. I greeted each of them, brought out some change, and gave to them to buy something for themselves on their way home. They were so happy. Jeremy looked at me. "You came to pick me up?" "Yes. I did." He grinned in excitement and waved at his friends. "Bye, everyone. See you tomorrow." And he entered the car. While we were driving I noticed a finger mark on Jeremy's cheek. It was like a cut. It had the shape of a fingernail. "Who gave you this cut on your face, Jeremy?" He touched it with his hands. "My mum. She slapped me this morning." "Why?" He looked at me and turned his gaze back to the road. "My mum insists that I should take the public bus to school from now on. She doesn't want me to follow you anymore." "Why?" "I do not know." "Before now, did she know I dropped you off at school?" "Sometimes. I told her." "And she is not happy I do that?" He nodded his head and turned to look at the road. "I came by at your house today and heard her shouting at you. I am sorry I could not intervene. I was scared it would make things worse for you." He was speechless. While driving past Kilimanjaro, an eatery at the old airport, he kept staring at the place. I saw his face and knew he'd want to go in. So I took a turn into the building. I told him to come down so we could buy some snacks together. He smiled. We walked in, picked some snacks and ice cream and both walked out. While we were driving home, Jeremy said to me. "Thank you, Dad. My friends have told me about about how they visited this place. Today I visited it too and will tell them the story. Tomorrow they'll also be telling me how rich my dad is because of the money you gave them today." I laughed. I dropped off Jeremy at home and drove back to work. This morning I waited until 7:15 and when I didn't see Jeremy come to my house as he usually does, I drove off to work. I knew he had taken the bus just like his mother instructed. I am at work now, and considering the second option. I want to meet Jeremy's mum tonight. I am not evil. I am just a young man who loves her son as much as she does. That's all. My name is #Chibuzo Eze and I am the best at what I do. #Discipline #nakupenda

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™ So yesterday I kept wondering what the problem with Jeremy was. Their school closes by 2 pm. So by 1:30 pm, I was already at Jeremy's school to pick him up so I could take him back home. I parked in front of the school gate, just across the road. Jeremy had once told me that his mum always left the key behind so he could pick it up and gain entrance to the house when he returned from school. While waiting for him, a young boy waved at me and shouted. "Daddy Jeremy." He was walking with two other young boys who waved at me in excitement. I smiled and waved back. Then quickly called them. "Have you seen Jeremy today?" I asked. "No sir. He didn't come to school." "He didn't?" "Yes." I thanked them and watched as they left. Well since Jeremy did not come to school, I felt probably he took a day off that day. This morning I waited for Jeremy again. I had dressed up very early and was already set to leave the house. When it was 6:50 am, and Jeremy didn't show up, I decided to drive to his house to pick him up. I got to his house and horned. Then I stepped down to walk to the door. I heard Jeremy crying from inside. His mother was seriously shouting at him. "So if he is not taking you to school you are not going to school? Is he your father? What is wrong with you? What has he given you to eat. Will you get dressed and go to school now. Are you stup'd? Or is something wrong with you?" I paused. I knew this whole thing was about me. I couldn't knock. I didn't know what her reaction would be next if she sees me. I heard running footsteps hitting the floor. I heard hands bagging tables. I heard Jeremy's cries and his mother shouting. Suddenly I heard her beating him again. "Pick your bags and go to school like other children. Go and join the bus now." I turned back, got into my car, and drove off. I didn't even know when a teardrop left my eyes. I feel hurt today. Really hurt. Today started out badly for me and not until I am sure Jeremy is fine, I may not be at rest. #nakupenda #Discipline #Chibuzo

When your eyes become your lord, you will be bound to satisfy all their cravings—whether good or evil. “Do not take anything with you when leaving, okay?” the elderly man warned sternly. His voice echoed through the small room as he addressed the four young men taking shelter in his home. A violent storm had swept through the city, stranding them on their way back to their respective universities. “Yes, sir,” they chorused, watching the elderly man quietly step out of the room. Charles flopped onto the bed, eyes roaming across the ceiling. “This room looks like it hasn’t been used in a century,” he said. “How would you know?” Peter asked, unpacking his bag. “Look at those drawings. They look like Mediterranean-era paintings.” He pointed toward the ceiling. “Historian!” Henry mocked, making the others burst into laughter. “I’m serious,” Charles insisted. “I bet there are ancient antiques in this house. First thing tomorrow, I’m going searching.” “Remember what the old man said,” John reminded him. “Forget the old man,” Charles replied, shutting his eyes with a smirk. --- The next day, the storm cleared. The water receded, and the sun pierced through the clouds. The housemaster gathered the boys and gave them parting words of wisdom. In return, they handed him small tokens of appreciation and went on their way. But not long after their departure, the housemaster made a troubling discovery—one of his most precious antiques was missing. Panicked, he raised an alarm. The neighbors quickly rallied and pursued the young men. When they caught up with them, a search was conducted—and the missing item was found tucked inside Charles' bag. They were all arrested and thrown into a prison cell. --- This fictional tale echoes the ancient story of Achan—a man who let his eyes override the commandments of God. Achan saw, desired, and took—and his disobedience brought ruin not only upon himself, but upon his people. Just like Charles, when the eyes become your master, you’ll be driven to satisfy every craving, regardless of consequence. Beware what your eyes fixate on—because what you stare at too long, you may start to crave. And what you crave, you may soon disobey to obtain. © Juliet Chinenyenwa Alex

*MEDICAL NUMBERS IN THE LIFE OF EVERY HUMAN BEING* 1. Blood pressure: 120 / 80 2. Pulse: 70 - 100 3. Temperature: 36.8 - 37 4. Respiration: 12-16 5. Hemoglobin: Males (13.50-18) Females ( 11.50 - 16 ) 6. Cholesterol: 130 - 200 7. Potassium: 3.50 - 5 8. Sodium: 135 - 145 9. Triglycerides: 220 10. The amount of blood in the body: Pcv 30-40% 11. Sugar: for Children (70-130) Adults: 70 - 115 12. Iron: 8-15 mg 13. White blood cells: 4000 - 11000 14. Platelets: 150,000 - 400,000 15. Red blood cells: 4.50 - 6 million.. 16. Calcium: 8.6 - 10.3 mg/dL 17. Vitamin D3: 20 - 50 ng/ml (nanograms per milliliter) 18. Vitamin B12: 200 - 900 pg/ml *Tips for those who have reached Over:* the *40years* the *50* the *60* *First tip:* Always drink water even if you don't feel thirsty or need it... the biggest health problems and most of them are from the lack of water in the body. 2 litres Minimum per day (24 hours) *Second tip:* Play sports even when you are at the top of your preoccupation...the body must be moved, even if only by walking...or swimming...or any kind of sports. 🚶 Walking is Good for a Start... 👌 *Third Tip:* Reduce food... Leave excessive food cravings... because it never brings good. Don't deprive yourself, but reduce the quantities. Use more Of Protein, Carbohydrates based Foods. *Fourth tip* As much as possible, do not use the Car unless absolutely necessary... Try to reach on your Feet for what you want ( grocery, visiting someone...) or any goal. Climb Stairs, than use Elevator, Escalator *Fifth tip* let go of ANGER... let go of Anger... let go of anger... Let go of Worry.... try to overlook things... Do not involve yourself in situations of Disturbance... they all diminish health and take away the splendor of the soul. Choose a babysitter you feel comfortable with. Talk to People who are Positive and Listen 👂 *Sixth tip* As it is said..leave your Money in the Sun.. and sit in the Shade.. don't limit yourself and those around you... money was made to live By it, not to live For it. *Seventh tip* Don't make yourself feel Sorry for anyone, nor on something you could not Achieve, Nor anything that you could not Own. Ignore it, Forget it; *Eighth tip* Humility.. then humility.. for Money, Prestige, Power and Influence... they are all things that are corrupted by Arrogance and arrogance.. Humility is what brings people Closer to you with Love. ☺ *Ninth tip* If your hair turns Grey, this does not mean the End of Life. It is proof that a Better life has Begun. 🙋 Be Optimistic, live with Remembrance, Travel, Enjoy yourself. Make Memories! *It may help someone when you share it*👀 TO ALL ELDERS IN THE HOUSE, KINDLY FOLLOW UP. IT IS VERY NECESSARY TO FOLLOW THIS INSTRUCTION STEP BY STEP. HEALTH HINTS FOR MY ELDERS ****************** However busy you are, observe all these to remain healthy: :::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: Drink less milk in your tea. Instead, add lemon or lime juice. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the day time, drink more water; but night time, drink less. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the day don't drink more than 2 cups of coffee, Advisable To Stop Completely too. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eat less oily foods. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Best sleeping times are between 10pm to 6am. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the evening, eat little or nothing after 5 or 6pm. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Don't take medicines with cold water but with warm, and take your medicines half an hour before going to bed. Never take medicines and lie down immediately. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ As you aged further , stop drinking chilled water but drink only water at room temperature ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Try to sleep for at least 8 hours per day. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Having a nap for an hour and a half between noon and 3pm, to relieve stress and keep younger and not age easily. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Once your mobile phone battery is left with only one bar, don't make calls anymore, because the dangerous radiation and waves are one many times higher than a fully charged battery. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Use your left ear to answer calls, right ear will directly hurt your brain. 😳 Better still to use earphones to answer calls. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Two things to check as often as you can: (1) Your blood pressure (2) Your blood sugar. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Six things to reduce to the minimum on your foods: (1) Salt (2) Sugar (3) Preserved meat and foods (4) Red meat especially roasted (5) Dairy products (6) Starchy products ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Four things to increase in your foods: (1) Greens/vegetables (2) Beans (3) Fruits (4) Nuts ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Three things you need to forget: (1) Your age 😮 (2) Your past 🤔 (3) Your worries/grievances 👍🏽 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Four things you must have, no matter how weak or how strong you are: (1) Friends who truly love you (2) Caring family (3) Positive thoughts (4) A warm home. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Seven things you need to do to stay healthy: (1) Singing (2) Dancing (3) Fasting (4) Smiling/laughing (5) Trek/exercise (6) Have sex often with your love (7) Reduce your weight. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Six things you don't have to do: (1) Don't wait till you are hungry to eat (2) Don't wait till you are thirsty to drink (3) Don't wait till you are sleepy to sleep (4) Don't wait till you feel tired to rest (5) Don't wait till you get sick to go for medical check-ups otherwise you will only regret later in life (6) Don’t wait till you have problem before you pray to your God. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ One thing you must do after reading these health tips: (1) Forward this to your loved ones and friends, and as you do so, may God bless U. ================= While go about your normal business please let's remember to always check our body to know how fit you are. Health is wealth. MEDICAL FITNES HIGH BP ---------- 120/80 -- Normal 130/85 --Normal (Control) 140/90 -- High 150/95 -- V.High ---------------------------- PULSE -------- 72 per minute (standard) 60 --- 80 p.m. (Normal) 40 -- 180 p.m.(abnormal) ---------------------------- TEMPERATURE ----------------- 98.4 F (Normal) 99.0 F Above (Fever) Please help your Relatives, Friends by sharing this information.... Heart Attacks- - - Drinking Warm Water: This is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal, but about Heart Attack's . The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals, not cold water, maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating. For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is very Harmful to have Cold Drink/Water during a meal. Because, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer . It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal. French fries and Burgers are the biggest enemy of heart health. A coke after that gives more power to this demon. Avoid them for your Heart's & Health. Drink one glass of warm water just when you are about to go to bed to avoid clotting of the blood at night to avoid heart attacks or strokes. A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. ... So, please be a true friend and send this article to people you care about. Must read 👆👌 FOR THE YOUNG ONES 👇 Cheers And Enjoy life Know your genotype before you say yes to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with... Genotype & It's Appropriate Suitor: AA + AA = Excellent AA + AS = Good AA + SS = Fair AS + AS = Bad AS + SS = Very Bad SS + SS = Extremely Bad (In fact, don't try it) #SickleCellAwareness 💉BLOOD GROUP COMPATIBILITY 💉 What’s Your Type and how common is it? O+ 1 in 3 37.4% (Most common) A+ 1 in 3 35.7% B+ 1 in 12 8.5% AB+ 1 in 29 3.4% O- 1 in 15 6.6% A- 1 in 16 6.3% B- 1 in 67 1.5% AB- 1 in 167 .6% (Rarest) Compatible Blood Types O- can receive O- O+ can receive O+, O- A- can receive A-, O- A+ can receive A+, A-, O+, O- B- can receive B-, O- B+ can receive B+, B-, O+, O- AB- can receive AB-, B-, A-, O- AB+ can receive AB+, AB-, B+, B-, A+, A-, O+, O-b This is an important msg which can save a life! A life could be saved.... EFFECT OF WATER 💐 We Know Water is important but never knew about the Special Times one has to drink it.. !! Did you ??? 💦 Drinking Water at the Right Time ⏰ Maximizes its effectiveness on the Human Body; 1⃣ 1 Glass of Water after waking up - 🕕⛅ helps to activate internal organs.. 2⃣ 1 Glass of Water 30 Minutes 🕧 before a Meal - helps digestion.. 3⃣ 1 Glass of Water before taking a Bath 🚿 - helps lower your blood pressure. 4⃣ 1 Glass of Water before going to Bed - 🕙 avoids Stroke or Heart Attack. 'When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, You have a moral obligation to share it with others. #Healthiswealth #Discipline

This evening I planned to meet with Jeremy's mother the moment I returned from work. His mum goes out very early in the morning and comes back late at night. Since it was about to rain heavily, I felt the mum would have returned home earlier today. So when I got back home this evening, I changed and headed straight for an eatery to buy some snacks for Jeremy. I bought an extra plate for the mother as well. I took these snacks and went to the house to knock. Jeremy was the one who opened the door when I knocked. He paused like he had seen a ghost. Then he glanced back and returned his gaze to me and whispered. "Dad." I whispered back. "Jeremy." Is your mummy in?" "Yes. She just came back." "Tell her I want to see her." He froze for a moment. I could see fear in his eyes. "Will you be in trouble?" I asked. He nodded his head. I understood his fear. I knew he was scared of his mother's reaction. Especially as she had already warned him about me. Just as I was about to turn back, his mother showed up at the door and opened the curtain. She must have heard my voice when I was talking with Jeremy. She pushed Jeremy behind her and the boy just went inside. "Good evening." "What do you want?" "I came to talk with you and I also brought some snacks and food for you and for Jeremy too. I stopped by the eatery." Jeremy was peeping through the window and I could see his face. "Did Jeremy tell you we were hungry?" "No...no. Not at all. I just wanted to see you and discuss with you. So I felt I shouldn't come empty-handed. I thought of what to get and believe me this was the best thing I could come up with." "We are not hungry, sir. We just ate dinner not long ago." I nodded. "Can I come in. So we talk?" "About what?" "Ummm... I understand you do not know me that well. I am your neighbor. I stay just over there. Jeremy and I have been friends and I met him once when I gave him a lift to school and since then I have been giving him lifts to school." "Are you a driver?" "No... I am a writer and script writer and I work for an establishment as well." "So since you are not a driver why are you interested in giving him a lift?" "I just... I mean since we go out together in the morning and I... Madam listen. Jeremy is a nice boy and I have seen him as my son as well as you have. I just wanted you to understand..." "Jeremy is not looking for a father. If he were I would have shown him where his father is. Please stay clear from my son. Please." She entered the house and shut the door angrily. For a moment I felt embarassed and useless. Jeremy waved at me and I waved back. I do not know if he was saying sorry or saying goodnight to me. But before I could wave back, his mother forcefully dragged him away from the window. I felt bad. I turned and left. On my way home, I got beaten by the rain. My clothes were drentched. It was as if the heavens were in agreement with her. I do not know if to stay off or try one more time. I do not know at all #nakupenda #Discipline

SOMETHING SHOCKING HAPPENED TODAY. (Nor be everybodi ok o) I went to Air-force base in Ikeja today to see a colleague. So when I was going, I enter a bus to oshodi, When the car moved , I asked the conductor how much "He said 500" I said I paid but I paid 300naira while coming, why the sudden new high price?? And he started abusing and calling me Oloriburuku, ashawo, you don't have money you dey enter motor.😳 People in the bus were surprised and started wondering if he knows me before or we have personal issues.😀 At that moment, I was already boiling inside me😡 but I tried as much as I can to control my emotions and remain calm.🤦🏼‍♀️ After everything the driver intervened and calmed situation. 🙏 When we got to Oshodi, the conductor jumped out of the bus (the way they use to) and he immediately slumped on the ground 😳. Knowing that something is wrong, I rushed to apply CPR on him but he wasn't responding, so the driver rushed him to the hospital, which I and of the passengers followed him. When we got to the hospital, the doctor checked him and said he had a heart attack and his pulse stopped before we came. 💔 We sympathize with the driver and went our separate ways.🥺 As I got home, my head was full of different thoughts,🤔 "What if I had threatening him? What if I reacted when he was abusing me.?🙆 One thing we all should learn from this is how to control our emotions no matter the provocation.✍️ No matter the provocation, don't beat or threaten anyone, you can doesn't mean you should, not everybody is alive out there‼️ There are many walking corpse out there looking for who will klll them, learn from this so that you won't become a victim. Copied #chinosky #grace

PUNCH Newspaper *The unseen crisis facing Nigerian men (moment Otunba Kunle Akinyele collapsed)* *Message not just for Men alone, but for everyone* 5th May 2025. Ganiyu Olowu *When Otunba Kunle Akinyele, a respected hotelier in Lagos, slumped and died at his wife’s 60th birthday thanksgiving, the nation gasped in disbelief. One moment, he was celebrating life and love; the next, he lay lifeless at the altar of joy*. The video is haunting — *a man gesturing, gasping, reaching for help in a sacred space, surrounded by those he loved but alone in his final battle.* This was not just a death. It was a metaphor of silent suffering, buried exhaustion, and what men have come to normalise in the name of strength. Akinyele’s case is not isolated. It is one of many chilling examples of how Nigerian men, particularly in their mid- to late years, are collapsing under the weight of responsibilities, unspoken pain, and undiagnosed illnesses. According to the World Health Organisation, men in sub-Saharan Africa, including Nigeria, are 2.4 times more likely to die prematurely from preventable causes than women. This alarming disparity is fuelled by cultural and behavioural factors: men are less likely to seek medical help, more likely to suppress emotional turmoil, and often glorify suffering in silence. In Nigeria, cardiovascular diseases, hypertension, and untreated mental health conditions are among the leading causes of sudden deaths in men. So This Happened (215) Reviews Death Of Lagos... In 2019, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya—admired for his strength and spiritual leadership—passed away quietly after years of enduring deep emotional losses and reportedly ongoing health complications. His resilience was legendary, but it masked what many now see as untreated grief, intense stress, and likely silent medical conditions. Then came the sudden death of veteran broadcaster Ayo Oduleye, better known as MC Loyo, who slumped while compering an event in Ibadan. His charm and humour lit up stages, but in the blink of an eye, the microphone fell silent. Just like that. Similarly, the passing of Mr Ibu (John Okafor) in early 2024, after months of battling illness, reminded the country of how many male entertainers struggle financially and physically behind the scenes, putting on a show while their bodies deteriorate. Masculinity, when warped, can become a silent weapon—not just against others, but against oneself. *ENDEAVOUR TO TAKE GOOD REST PLEASE* Globally, the story remains the same. In 2014, beloved comedian Robin Williams died by suicide, a victim of masked depression. And in 2022, cricket legend Shane Warne died suddenly of a heart attack, a casualty of silent coronary disease and an overstretched lifestyle. Yet while statistics shock and headlines haunt, the everyday grind of the average Nigerian man tells an even sadder tale. Take Lagos, Nigeria’s commercial capital—the city that never sleeps, and where many men now barely do. A significant number of working-class men reside on the mainland or in Ogun border towns like Mowe, Ikorodu, Sango Ota, or Ibafo but must commute to the Island for work—a journey that often begins by 4:00 a.m. and ends by 9:00 p.m. on return. This is no exaggeration. Studies from the Lagos Metropolitan Area Transport Authority reveal that Lagosians spend an average of four to six hours daily in traffic—with many men doing these five to six times a week. That is over 1,400 hours a year lost in gridlock—time stolen from rest, from family, from reflection. For these men, the day begins before the rooster crows. They rush into overcrowded buses, endure fumes of frustration, only to return home when their children are already asleep. There is no room for hobbies, hardly any time for checkups, no outlet for pain. Sleep is a luxury. Rest is a myth. And joy is rationed, like fuel in a scarcity season. This modern man is constantly running on empty—physically present but emotionally absent, financially committed but spiritually depleted. And society applauds his hustle, without asking at what cost. The idiom says, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” but what if the crown is invisible, made not of gold but of expectations, bills, unspoken grief, and sacrificial silence? Men are praised for providing, for showing up, for being “rocks”. But even rocks erode—silently, slowly, and then all at once. The greatest tragedy is not that they die, but that they are dying unseen. Consider the tragic case of a 42 year old engineer in Port Harcourt who collapsed at his workstation after weeks of working overtime to meet project deadlines. His colleagues described him as “dedicated to a fault”, but his sudden death revealed the dangers of ignoring signs of burnout and hypertension. Another heartbreaking example is the story of a young entrepreneur in Enugu who passed away in his sleep after complaining of chest pains for weeks. Despite his family’s pleas, he refused to visit a doctor, citing his busy schedule and financial obligations. His autopsy later revealed undiagnosed cardiovascular disease—a silent killer that could have been managed with timely intervention. One unforgettable story is that of Samuel Okwaraji, the gifted footballer and patriot who gave everything to his country on the football pitch. In 1989, during a World Cup qualifier against Angola in Lagos, Okwaraji collapsed and tragically died of congestive heart failure at just 25 years old. His life, so full of promises, was cut short under the intense demands of national expectation. The harsh conditions of the game that day, combined with the immense physical and psychological pressures he faced, ultimately proved too much. These stories compel us to ask: What are we doing to ourselves in the name of strength? Why does the world celebrate silent suffering but frown upon seeking help? Dr Salawu Abiola, a psychiatrist at the Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital in Yaba, offers critical advice for men navigating these pressures. He emphasises the importance of prioritising rest, adequate sleep, and regular health checkups. “If you work and die today, someone will replace you at the workplace, but no one replaces you in the family,” he warns. Abiola advocates setting realistic goals, managing time effectively, and creating moments of joy and relaxation amid life’s challenges. He also highlights the need for men to engage in positive activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and socialising with supportive people, to release built-up tension and foster mental well-being. Check your vitals before you check your wallet. Monthly profit means nothing if your heart gives out unexpectedly. Your strength is not in how much you carry but in how well you manage your load. Therapy is not weakness. It is a repair. Just like a car needs servicing, your mind and soul need realignment. Build relationships where you are more than a provider—where you are allowed to cry, collapse, confess. A good name is better than riches, but good health is the foundation of both. As Chinua Achebe once said, “When the drumbeat changes, the dance must also change.” The drumbeat of life today is faster, louder, and less forgiving. Men must adjust their rhythm. Health is the new wealth. Silence is no longer golden; it is dangerous. *Ganiyu Olowu, a public affairs analyst, writes from Lagos*. punchng.com ©️ 1971- 2025 Punch Nigeria Limited *MAY WE ALL LIVE LONG IN JESUS NAME* 🙏 CULLED #olufaderomi #grace