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Harsh reality of life 😔🥺 #Grateful

In life, let your choices be your own and owe no one any obligation for justification. If you realize you have made a mistake, you should take responsibility and make amends. Own your choices, stand by your decisions and actions without feeling the need to explain them to others. Stay true to yourself, and don't compromise your values or decisions to fit in or seek validation from others. Recognize when you are wrong and take steps to correct your mistakes. Pay more attention to actions, not words. HAPPY NEW MONTH NAKUPENDIANS!! #Motivation #Nakupenda #Subewo

4 months after I was born, my mom went back to University to get her degree. I'm her third child. She left me and my siblings with our Dad and paternal grandma and came home only weekends for three years until she finished her degree. She left 3 under-5 and went to pursue her career. At 28, she was doing her NYSC and pregnant with her 4th child. At 40, she already had her master's degree. She has been a civil servant since 1993. Now, at 61, she is at the peak of her career. A level 17 officer, Permanent Secretary grade. (Edit - Note: in 2023, Delta State increased retirement age from 60 to 65.) My aunty who was my mother's secondary mate and got married same year my mother got married, didn't continue with her education like my mom did. She had three children and tried to go back in her 40s when her last child was in secondary school, but she was only able to acquire tc2 (or whatever they call it). At the long run. My mom raised four successful biological children. My aunty raised three successful biological children. No, my aunty's children did NOT turn out better just because she gave up career and dreams to raise them. If you are measuring success based on wealth and quality and level of education, we are far ahead. There are no studies, research or statistics that indicate that children of stay-at-home mothers do better. If I could be asked to choose between an illiterate mother who stayed at home throughout my childhood and gave up career just to watch me VERSUS my mother who is a top/senior civil servant at the peak of her career, a boss in the office and boss at home, I would DEFINITELY choose the latter, and I'm glad that the latter is my reality. My father told me that he had opportunity to travel to the US or UK when I was just four. He was to travel there for research and enroute into becoming a university lecturer/professor. But he turned down the opportunity because he wanted to be there to watch his children grow every minute. Do you know what I told him? I told him that he should have gone. Some of my siblings also told him he should have gone. Imagine the children he stayed for telling him that he should have gone. My father's colleague who also got same offer went and came back for his family one year later. So, I told my father that leaving his family for a year or two would have been a worthwhile sacrifice to pay for a better future. He should have gone and come back for us a year or two later. My father was a very successful man, more educated than my mother and also got to the peak of his career, but not half as successful as he would have been if he had taken some risks, including leaving his children for a year or two. Why am I writing all these? For those women who abandon their dreams, careers and aspirations because of their children. Someday, your children who you abandoned your career for will ask you WHY? They will tell you that you should have pursued your career. Like I said, my father sacrificed career progression for us his children. My mother did NOT sacrifice career pursuit for anybody. While I understand the sacrifice my father made, as a grown adult, I still think my mother made the better choice. So, my dear women/mothers, I can tell you that at the long run, your children would be most proud of you if you pursue your career and achieve great career heights. I went back to full-time studies January to December 2024. I had my daughter in-between in April 2024. I got an extra degree and with that, I'm applying for jobs and negotiating salaries more than twice my salary in my last job. It wasn't easy doing that while nursing a baby, but I did it. My children would grow up seeing a strong mommy who didn't abandon her dreams. I want my daughter to know that she should never abandon her dream or chosen career for any reason or anyone. I don't want my children to ask me WHY? It's not easy combining academic/career and family. But nothing good comes too easily. Just do your best within your power and the opportunity and resources available to you. Copied ✍️

Happy nurses week to all of the amazing nurses out there, we are the real mvps

You've probably seen or heard or read these 👇👇 before but please read them again. You don’t have to have it all figured out to take the first step. Start small. Start unsure. Start scared. Just start. The magic isn’t in perfection—it’s in persistence. Keep showing up for yourself, and one day you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come. Keep going—you’re closer than you think. #grace #@lilywealth

“Davido charged me 8 billion Naira to be a brand ambassador for my company. I was very surprised and asked him why, and his reply inspired me to take my personal branding seriously. He sat me down and told me he had brand deals with Puma, J.M. Motors, and Martell worth billions, and for him to become my brand ambassador, he would have to consider my brand like his own company and carry it on his head. He told me to imagine how much energy I would put into promoting my company if I were an influencer, then imagine him using that same energy to promote me and evaluate if it’s not worth the price he is asking. There were other artists like Burna Boy and Wizkid I could go to, but I knew Davido is that one person who works for brands he is an ambassador for like they’re his own. At the end of the day, my talk with Davido completely shifted my mindset from getting influencers to work for me if they won’t work like it was their own brand. I invested that same money into building a personal brand for myself, and today, I see my conversation with Davido as life-changing” — Blord reveals! Honestly speaking, there is no brand ambassador in Nigeria who works like Davido. Before getting to Davido, Martell worked with Burna Boy and didn’t see results. When they signed Davido, Martell became the highest-selling cognac drink in Nigeria. Before coming to Davido, Puma worked with Wizkid, but when Davido entered, every collection they did with him was sold out before it even dropped. Davido’s influence is so unreal!

Can someone really tell me why Satan is finding it so difficult to apologize to God and let's settle this long beef between them? Why can't they allow bygone to be bygone and let's move ahead toward a better life. Or is it that Satan was created and designed to be destroyed? I can't understand this beef. I don't know why Satan hates God so much that he wants to oppose everything about God. Even when he knows he can't win him. What is the point of starting a fight you can never win? @Team E. #Team E.

My father used to teach us a lesson: Speak less. Listen more. Never underestimate silence. As I reflect on it now, I wonder does this always hold true in real life? Is silence always the strongest move in tough situations? Or are there times when speaking out is just as powerful? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

In this life, only listen to two people. Those who strongly align with the vision and those who say "it won't work" The people in the middle don't really care. If it works fine or If it doesn't work fine. The strong believers take the vision as theirs and run with it. The unbelievers show you all the reasons why it won't work. Use their unbelieve to correct your flaws. Never take the opinion of people in-between. They are not positive enough to drive and not negative enough to cause a concern.

You are feared by your fears. So face it. Sometimes, the things we’re most afraid of are afraid of us too — afraid we’ll grow, change, and rise above them. Fear thrives in silence and avoidance. But the moment you turn around and stare it in the face, something shifts. You start to realize it’s not as powerful as it seemed. It was feeding off your hesitation. Your fears only have the power you give them. Face them, and you’ll see: they were never bigger than you — just louder. #Ngo_123 #grace

WE ARE A MIX OF CONTRADICTIONS - grieving loss yet hurting those around us, striving for greatness while envying others' success. We're complex, messy, and figuring things out. It's our imperfections that make us perfectly human. So can we really do about this? #chinosky #grace

Title: Adira and the Heart of the Storm Years had passed since Adira first became the Keeper of the Echoes. The village had grown, but the forests around it had grown even wilder, and the ancient trees whispered more often than ever. Adira, now a young woman, had learned to communicate with the forest, guiding it to balance the fragile boundary between the realms of magic and men. One evening, as dusk fell and the sky pulsed with a thousand hues of gold and lavender, a strange thing happened. The forest fell silent. Not a single leaf stirred, not a breath of wind rustled the branches. The quiet was so profound, it pressed against Adira's chest. A low rumble shook the ground beneath her feet. Before she could move, the sky split with a roar, and a storm unlike any she'd seen descended upon the forest. Dark clouds, swirling like a tempest of shadows, spun violently above the trees. The air crackled with magic, and strange lights flickered within the storm. It was not just weather—it was an omen. Adira ran toward the heart of the disturbance, following the pulse of magic she felt beneath her skin. The storm's fury grew with each step, but she was not afraid. She had faced the unknown before. At the center of the storm stood a figure cloaked in shadow, their form shimmering like a silhouette made of night itself. The ground around them was scorched, the earth warped with unnatural energy. "I've come to claim what is mine," the shadowed figure spoke, their voice like thunder rolling through the sky. Adira stepped forward, her hand instinctively reaching for the vine-and-silver necklace that hung from her neck. The forest hummed in response, a soft, reassuring pulse. "You don't belong here," Adira said, her voice steady. "This is the realm of balance, of peace. You will destroy it." The figure laughed, the sound echoing like a crack of thunder. "I was born of chaos. The forest cannot keep me out forever. You are too late, Keeper." With a flick of the figure’s hand, the storm raged harder, lashing out with winds that could tear trees from their roots. Adira's eyes glowed with determination. “No,” she said. “I am the Keeper of Echoes. And I will protect this place.” The forest answered her call, its ancient power flowing through her veins. Adira raised her arms, and the vines around her swelled, twisting into forms of protection. The ground beneath her feet rumbled as the trees responded, their roots awakening, reaching deep into the earth. The shadowed figure faltered as the earth itself began to push back, the magic of the forest encircling them, constricting. "You are bound by the forest's power, just as I am," Adira said. "But I am not alone." The figure hissed in fury, but the storm began to recede, the winds lessening. Adira pressed forward, not with force, but with the unity of the forest’s heart. Slowly, the figure began to dissipate, its form turning to mist as the magic of the forest sealed the rift they had created. The storm calmed, and the sky cleared, revealing a single star that gleamed brighter than the others—a sign that the balance had been restored. Adira, though exhausted, smiled softly. The forest was safe for now. The echo of the wild magic pulsed beneath her feet, always there, waiting to guide her when needed. #ADIRA #nakupenda #Discipline