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Please how am I supposed to know if I’m in the right relationship? #Grateful #PeaceOfMind

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Them don use "I'm going through a lot" leave you for relationship before?💔😂 #PeaceOfMind

The Parable of the 10 Virgins teaches us about: 1. Preparedness 2. Planning 3. Self-sufficiency 4. Importance of timing These lessons can be applied to various aspects of life, such as career, finance, relationships, and personal growth. #tessy_rich #Favour #knowledge #preparedness

My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was 9500/- and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only 1500/- to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.” . I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account. . One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. 74,734/-. And this girl has been crying poverty? . I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation. . All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.” . She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. . The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” . We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.... . My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.” . Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.” . I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.” . I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions... #copied #Discipline #beopentoyourcouple

RELATIONSHIPS Why Friendship is more important than you think "In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed." – Khalil Gibran We often prioritize and seek romantic relationships first and foremost. We also value our family bonds and tend to favor these connections. However, this can mean that we leave friendships by the wayside. And yet friendships can be very important for a good, satisfying, and meaningful life. Friendships are special because they are usually far more about positive emotions and fun than other relationships. That is not to say that friends won’t be there during the hard times, but that we tend to hang out with them when we want to. With a relative or a partner, there are usually more obligations. This means that friends can become those positive relationships that bring us joy and happiness, even when things are tough elsewhere. Secondly, friends are chosen, and as we maintain a friendship, we keep making the choice to stick with that person. It empowers us to build long and satisfying connections but let go of those that are less significant. #nakupenda #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou #Relationships

This is deep. Honestly, no one deserves to be kept in the dark like that, especially in marriage. Trust is the backbone of any relationship, and once it’s broken, everything feels shaky. The man gave his all thinking they were building together, only to realize he was walking alone. It hurts. I just pray they both find healing, because carrying that kind of pain daily can break anyone.

CONFESSION FOR THE NEW WEEK!!! O God My Father, as I step into this new week, I place my trust in You. I acknowledge that You are the Creator of all things, and You have perfect plans for my life. I release any fear or anxiety that may have been holding me back, knowing that You are my protector and my provider. I declare that this week will be filled with Your wisdom, peace, and favour. Every challenge I face will be an opportunity for growth, and I will overcome all obstacles with Your strength. I will be patient, kind, and loving to those around me, reflecting Your goodness in my words and actions. I declare that my mind is focused on Your truth, and my heart is open to hear Your voice. I will seek Your guidance in every decision I make, trusting that You will lead me along the right path. I speak blessings over my work, my relationships, and every area of my life, knowing that Your grace is sufficient for me. This week, I will be filled with joy and hope, for I know that You are with me every step of the way. I will not be discouraged, for You are my strength, and You hold my future in Your hands. I surrender my plans and desires to You, trusting that You will align them with Your will. I thank You for the strength to persevere and the courage to pursue my goals with faith. This week, I will walk in the fullness of Your peace, knowing that You are in control of all things. I commit this week to You, Lord, and I trust that You will work all things together for my good and Your glory." In Jesus mighty name. A sevenfold Amen "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths." — Proverbs 3:5-6

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#softsmile #Passion Sometimes saying sorry is the most difficult thing on earth. But it is the cheapest thing to save the most expensive gift called relationship. GOOD MORNING *(PLEASE STAY SAFE)*

#DREAMANDINTERPRETATION CARRYING BABIES IN THE DREAM To change a dirty baby (diaper) means that you need to take good care of your children. Are you feeling that you are child or baby is dirty? To see a baby in the hospital suggests that you may become pregnant in the future. To dream of giving birth to a baby that is not human means you are likely to give birth to a baby you don’t like. If you dream of neglecting your baby then this dream means a sense of severe marital troubels. If you are married with children, congratulations. But if you are not married with children, it a sign of childlessness. On the other hand, this dream can also signify that you recently abort one or two babies. To hold a baby in your arms which is dead signifies a hand that is dead to good things. Pray any of these prayers when you notice any of the following Spiritual mariage (ring/gown) Sexual relationships in dreams. Soul tie with your ex and planning to him. Different men asking for your hands in marriage.

Psychology Facts: 1. Being forgetful is a sign of high intelligence. 2. Not arguing or fighting in a relationship represents a lack of interest. 3. People are more honest when they're tired. 4. You have a look-a-like with 7 other people in the world and you probably won't ever meet them. 5. When you're not prepared for a test, your fight or flight kicks in and you feel the need to run. 6. Some people can hear colour, see sound, and taste words (synesthesia) 7. Every 10 years we become a new person and our desires change. Thanks for reading