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Na person wey never see anything for relationship dey save man name as "MY OWN" what's your own ? 😹 #knowledge #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou

PUNCH Newspaper *The unseen crisis facing Nigerian men (moment Otunba Kunle Akinyele collapsed)* *Message not just for Men alone, but for everyone* 5th May 2025. Ganiyu Olowu *When Otunba Kunle Akinyele, a respected hotelier in Lagos, slumped and died at his wife’s 60th birthday thanksgiving, the nation gasped in disbelief. One moment, he was celebrating life and love; the next, he lay lifeless at the altar of joy*. The video is haunting — *a man gesturing, gasping, reaching for help in a sacred space, surrounded by those he loved but alone in his final battle.* This was not just a death. It was a metaphor of silent suffering, buried exhaustion, and what men have come to normalise in the name of strength. Akinyele’s case is not isolated. It is one of many chilling examples of how Nigerian men, particularly in their mid- to late years, are collapsing under the weight of responsibilities, unspoken pain, and undiagnosed illnesses. According to the World Health Organisation, men in sub-Saharan Africa, including Nigeria, are 2.4 times more likely to die prematurely from preventable causes than women. This alarming disparity is fuelled by cultural and behavioural factors: men are less likely to seek medical help, more likely to suppress emotional turmoil, and often glorify suffering in silence. In Nigeria, cardiovascular diseases, hypertension, and untreated mental health conditions are among the leading causes of sudden deaths in men. So This Happened (215) Reviews Death Of Lagos... In 2019, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya—admired for his strength and spiritual leadership—passed away quietly after years of enduring deep emotional losses and reportedly ongoing health complications. His resilience was legendary, but it masked what many now see as untreated grief, intense stress, and likely silent medical conditions. Then came the sudden death of veteran broadcaster Ayo Oduleye, better known as MC Loyo, who slumped while compering an event in Ibadan. His charm and humour lit up stages, but in the blink of an eye, the microphone fell silent. Just like that. Similarly, the passing of Mr Ibu (John Okafor) in early 2024, after months of battling illness, reminded the country of how many male entertainers struggle financially and physically behind the scenes, putting on a show while their bodies deteriorate. Masculinity, when warped, can become a silent weapon—not just against others, but against oneself. *ENDEAVOUR TO TAKE GOOD REST PLEASE* Globally, the story remains the same. In 2014, beloved comedian Robin Williams died by suicide, a victim of masked depression. And in 2022, cricket legend Shane Warne died suddenly of a heart attack, a casualty of silent coronary disease and an overstretched lifestyle. Yet while statistics shock and headlines haunt, the everyday grind of the average Nigerian man tells an even sadder tale. Take Lagos, Nigeria’s commercial capital—the city that never sleeps, and where many men now barely do. A significant number of working-class men reside on the mainland or in Ogun border towns like Mowe, Ikorodu, Sango Ota, or Ibafo but must commute to the Island for work—a journey that often begins by 4:00 a.m. and ends by 9:00 p.m. on return. This is no exaggeration. Studies from the Lagos Metropolitan Area Transport Authority reveal that Lagosians spend an average of four to six hours daily in traffic—with many men doing these five to six times a week. That is over 1,400 hours a year lost in gridlock—time stolen from rest, from family, from reflection. For these men, the day begins before the rooster crows. They rush into overcrowded buses, endure fumes of frustration, only to return home when their children are already asleep. There is no room for hobbies, hardly any time for checkups, no outlet for pain. Sleep is a luxury. Rest is a myth. And joy is rationed, like fuel in a scarcity season. This modern man is constantly running on empty—physically present but emotionally absent, financially committed but spiritually depleted. And society applauds his hustle, without asking at what cost. The idiom says, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” but what if the crown is invisible, made not of gold but of expectations, bills, unspoken grief, and sacrificial silence? Men are praised for providing, for showing up, for being “rocks”. But even rocks erode—silently, slowly, and then all at once. The greatest tragedy is not that they die, but that they are dying unseen. Consider the tragic case of a 42 year old engineer in Port Harcourt who collapsed at his workstation after weeks of working overtime to meet project deadlines. His colleagues described him as “dedicated to a fault”, but his sudden death revealed the dangers of ignoring signs of burnout and hypertension. Another heartbreaking example is the story of a young entrepreneur in Enugu who passed away in his sleep after complaining of chest pains for weeks. Despite his family’s pleas, he refused to visit a doctor, citing his busy schedule and financial obligations. His autopsy later revealed undiagnosed cardiovascular disease—a silent killer that could have been managed with timely intervention. One unforgettable story is that of Samuel Okwaraji, the gifted footballer and patriot who gave everything to his country on the football pitch. In 1989, during a World Cup qualifier against Angola in Lagos, Okwaraji collapsed and tragically died of congestive heart failure at just 25 years old. His life, so full of promises, was cut short under the intense demands of national expectation. The harsh conditions of the game that day, combined with the immense physical and psychological pressures he faced, ultimately proved too much. These stories compel us to ask: What are we doing to ourselves in the name of strength? Why does the world celebrate silent suffering but frown upon seeking help? Dr Salawu Abiola, a psychiatrist at the Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital in Yaba, offers critical advice for men navigating these pressures. He emphasises the importance of prioritising rest, adequate sleep, and regular health checkups. “If you work and die today, someone will replace you at the workplace, but no one replaces you in the family,” he warns. Abiola advocates setting realistic goals, managing time effectively, and creating moments of joy and relaxation amid life’s challenges. He also highlights the need for men to engage in positive activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and socialising with supportive people, to release built-up tension and foster mental well-being. Check your vitals before you check your wallet. Monthly profit means nothing if your heart gives out unexpectedly. Your strength is not in how much you carry but in how well you manage your load. Therapy is not weakness. It is a repair. Just like a car needs servicing, your mind and soul need realignment. Build relationships where you are more than a provider—where you are allowed to cry, collapse, confess. A good name is better than riches, but good health is the foundation of both. As Chinua Achebe once said, “When the drumbeat changes, the dance must also change.” The drumbeat of life today is faster, louder, and less forgiving. Men must adjust their rhythm. Health is the new wealth. Silence is no longer golden; it is dangerous. *Ganiyu Olowu, a public affairs analyst, writes from Lagos*. punchng.com ©️ 1971- 2025 Punch Nigeria Limited *MAY WE ALL LIVE LONG IN JESUS NAME* 🙏 CULLED #olufaderomi #grace

Who Truly Benefits from Sex? Man or Woman? The first thought that likely came to your mind was—man. Right? Most people instinctively assume that men derive more pleasure from sex, while women merely endure it. But you might be surprised to learn that reality is quite the opposite. Whether the act lasts five minutes or fifty, a man’s pleasure is condensed into the final five to ten seconds. In contrast, a woman can experience orgasm up to ten times in a single sexual encounter. That means a woman has the potential to enjoy ten times more pleasure than a man. Moreover, the duration of a woman's orgasm is typically twice or even three times longer than that of a man. Of course, not every woman reaches this peak every time. Some may rarely experience it, while others, on average, enjoy it three times per encounter—which is still significantly more than men. Less effort, more reward. This is an undeniable fact. But There’s More to the Story… Orgasm is simply the peak. The journey leading up to it is filled with pleasurable moments, intimate sensations, and deep emotional connections that keep both partners engaged. Both men and women derive enjoyment throughout the experience, but the ultimate climax marks the grand finale. Wise lovers understand that sex is not just about reaching the peak—it’s about savoring every moment of the journey. But If Women Benefit More, Why Are Men Always the Ones Pursuing It? The answer is simple: instinct. God designed sex as a reward system to encourage reproduction. Since women bear the greater burden of pregnancy—carrying a child for nine months—they were naturally endowed with a greater pleasure incentive to ensure they willingly partake in the process. Smart women embrace this natural gift, while the unaware may deprive themselves of it. Let’s be honest—if childbirth pain was the only reward, no woman would ever want to go through it again. But two things keep her coming back: The innate maternal instinct God has placed within her. The unparalleled pleasure and emotional fulfillment that comes with sex. Funny But True… It’s often said that during labor, women curse their husbands, blaming them for the unbearable pain they are experiencing. But can you deny the reality that the same woman, after delivering her child, willingly prepares for another pregnancy within a year? No man forces her into it. There’s no gunpoint coercion. It’s instinct. It’s pleasure. It’s God’s divine system at work. But Then, Why Do Men Chase Women If They Get Less Pleasure? Again, instinct and dominance. God has naturally instilled in men a desire to dominate and lead. A man's greatest pleasure in sex is not just physical—it’s the satisfaction of knowing that he has "conquered" his woman, pleased her, and fulfilled his natural role. Men don’t chase sex just for a few seconds of pleasure. They do it because it reaffirms their strength, their power, their ability to satisfy their woman, and ultimately, their role as a protector and provider. This dominance-driven pleasure fuels their willingness to bear responsibilities, raise children, and provide for their families. If Sex Is About Reproduction, Why Do Humans Continue Even When Pregnancy Isn’t the Goal? Good question. Other creatures mate solely for reproduction. But humans are the only species that enjoy this pleasure beyond just procreation. Why? Because God designed sex not just for reproduction, but also for bonding, stress relief, and maintaining emotional harmony between partners. This is why, even when pregnancy is not the goal, a couple continues to engage in intimacy regularly. Without this constant cycle of pleasure, emotional connection, and intimacy, relationships would suffer. A woman, after experiencing the pain of childbirth, might never want to go through it again. A man, burdened with responsibilities, might lose his motivation to work and provide. But sex keeps the system running. The Divine Balance God, in His wisdom, has allowed couples the freedom to experience intimacy whenever they desire, with no legal or religious restrictions, as long as it happens within marriage. Both man and woman receive their fair share of pleasure: The man experiences intense gratification, emotional release, and dominance satisfaction. The woman enjoys profound, long-lasting pleasure—up to ten times more than the man. Less effort, greater reward. Sex is not just a biological act. It is a divine gift, a system of balance, and an eternal bond between two souls. #nakupenda #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou #Relationship/Sex

Signs That You Have a Spiritual Husband If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with a spiritual husband, it’s essential to first recognize the signs of this spiritual affliction. A spiritual husband is a demonic entity that attaches itself to an individual, often causing disturbances in dreams, emotional instability, and hindrances in relationships. Understanding these signs is the first step toward deliverance and restoration. 1. Recurring Se*xual Dreams Experiencing frequent dreams of being se*xually intimate with an unseen partner is a common sign of a spiritual husband. These dreams often leave you feeling drained and unsettled upon waking. 2. Emotional Instability Sudden mood swings, unexplained sadness, or feelings of loneliness can be manifestations of a spiritual husband influencing your emotions. Learn more about what God can do exceedingly abundantly here. 3. Unexplained Fatigue Consistently feeling tired or lacking energy, even after adequate rest, may indicate a spiritual husband draining your vitality. 4. Hindrances in Relationships Struggling to maintain healthy relationships or experiencing repeated breakups can result from a spiritual husband interfering with your connections. Learn more about how to reverse a curse back to the sender here. 5. Sleep Disturbances Frequent nightmares, sleep paralysis, or waking up feeling unrested can be signs of spiritual oppression during sleep. 6. Unexplained Financial Loss Experiencing sudden financial difficulties or loss without clear reasons may be linked to spiritual hindrances caused by a spiritual husband. Learn more about why marriage is important to God here. 7. Inability to Maintain Purity Struggling with maintaining sexual purity or being drawn into illicit relationships can be a tactic of a spiritual husband to defile and distract. 8. Sudden Illnesses Experiencing unexplained illnesses or chronic health issues without a medical explanat

𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗮 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗮 𝗳𝗲𝘄 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝘃𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗵𝗮𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲. Relationships don’t fail because love died. They fail because people got stuck in a stage and didn’t grow through it. Here’s a breakdown of the 𝟲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽, and what each one demands from you: 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟭: 𝗜𝗡𝗙𝗔𝗧𝗨𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 (𝟬–𝟯 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵𝘀) When everything feels magical — but most of it is fantasy. • Intense attraction and excitement • Constant communication and longing • Idealization: seeing them as perfect • You’re falling fast — but not deep yet Enjoy the spark, but don’t mistake it for a foundation. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟮: 𝗥𝗢𝗠𝗔𝗡𝗖𝗘 (𝟯–𝟲 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵𝘀) The butterflies turn into bonding. • Emotional connection deepens • Affection and physical intimacy increase • Shared experiences grow • You feel “in love” Chemistry starts it, but connection sustains it. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟯: 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗬 𝗖𝗛𝗘𝗖𝗞 (𝟲–𝟭𝟮 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵𝘀) Love now has a mirror — and it shows the truth. • Flaws, habits, and differences emerge • Disagreements surface • Your ability to communicate is tested • Love becomes a choice, not just a feeling This stage makes or breaks the relationship. Grow, or it cracks. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟰: 𝗜𝗡𝗧𝗜𝗠𝗔𝗖𝗬 & 𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗦𝗧 (𝟭–𝟮 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀) You’re either building something solid — or drifting apart. • Emotional vulnerability increases • Deeper understanding and acceptance • Shared values and life goals become clear • Security and trust replace uncertainty Safety, not spark, builds intimacy. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟱: 𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗠𝗜𝗧𝗠𝗘𝗡𝗧 (𝟭–𝟱 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀) Now it’s about the life you’re building, not just the love you’re feeling. • Long-term decisions are made together • Responsibilities are shared • You face life’s seasons as a team • Love feels rooted Love is not something you feel every day, it’s something you choose every day. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟲: 𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗪𝗧𝗛 & 𝗘𝗩𝗢𝗟𝗨𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 (𝟱+ 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀) It’s no longer just about staying together — it’s about growing together. • Personal and relational growth • Navigating change and life challenges • Deep companionship and peace • Reinventing love in each season Great relationships evolve, they don’t stay where they started. 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗹𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 You don’t need a 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽. You need two people 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲. Don’t quit at the hard parts. That’s where most love stories lose their plot. #olufaderomi #grace #RelationshipWisdom #LoveGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #KnowTheStages #olufaderomi

Hello guys hope you're all doing great. So that was how this guy met me o and was confessing his feelings towards me. I told him I'm not ready for anything serious with him I just want us to be friends. He Then admitted that he dosnt have a problem with friendship. Every now and then he gets me expensive gifts, hmmm, I asked him "are you sure about this"? , my stance concerning this matter is solid o. I'm not in for a relationship with you, he said he understands and he just loves to help people and he does it to every other hardworking friend. So I decided to relax myself and enjoy the favour God is showing me in the sight of this my new friend and colleague. Some days ago I didnt know what happened all of a sudden he asked me to marry him and i said no please, I cant I've told you this before . He got angry and asked me to refund everything. Mind you the everything cost 500k. What do I do please. Mind you, i help him do some tasks and he rewards me with the gifts o . Not like i was collecting it like awoof. #Nakupenda [Agwammy] [iamdajek]

👉 FIRST PHASE of the relationship is 👉 HOT SEASON.. season of I can't stay without you..I need to see you always .. 👉The SECOND PHASE of the relationship is the TRIAL SEASON...life starts to test you both .. test your patience... test your character 👉The THIRD PHASE of the relationship is the TIRED SEASON... you get tired to call... tired to visit... tired for intimacy... tired to see their face... tired to talk for long .. 👉The FOURTH PHASE of the relationship is the LETS TRY AND MAKE IT WORK season.... This time around you intentionally fix a time for calls and checking up..not because you miss them but because it's a duty to do ... In marriage there is a time you won't have an urge for sex...but you will do it for duty sake.. this season you do your best to reignite the flame and the hotness AGAIN ... 👉The FIFT SEASON is SEE FINISH TOGETHER... this phase is the season of WE KNOW IT ALL, AND NOTHING MOVES US AGAIN... his attitude doesn't trouble you again.... her sharp mouth is normal to you .... You are used to their madness You have grown and evolved to handle your relationship.... at this stage break up don tire Una ..so no break up... What level are you now ...? #knowledge #De_NextVerYou #Utom58

#softsmile #Passion Sometimes saying sorry is the most difficult thing on earth. But it is the cheapest thing to save the most expensive gift called relationship. GOOD MORNING *(PLEASE STAY SAFE)*

Na why i no gree enter relationship be this

NAKUPENDA.... indeed creates strong, unbreakable bonds between people, fostering deep connections and relationships. It's a powerful force that brings joy, support, and unity. ❤️

RELATIONSHIPS Why Friendship is more important than you think "In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed." – Khalil Gibran We often prioritize and seek romantic relationships first and foremost. We also value our family bonds and tend to favor these connections. However, this can mean that we leave friendships by the wayside. And yet friendships can be very important for a good, satisfying, and meaningful life. Friendships are special because they are usually far more about positive emotions and fun than other relationships. That is not to say that friends won’t be there during the hard times, but that we tend to hang out with them when we want to. With a relative or a partner, there are usually more obligations. This means that friends can become those positive relationships that bring us joy and happiness, even when things are tough elsewhere. Secondly, friends are chosen, and as we maintain a friendship, we keep making the choice to stick with that person. It empowers us to build long and satisfying connections but let go of those that are less significant. #nakupenda #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou #Relationships