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IT IS ALWAYS DARKEST BEFORE THE DAWN It's a reminder that: 1. Challenges are temporary - Difficult times will pass. 2. Hope is on the horizon - Better days are ahead. 3. Resilience is key - Stay strong and persevere. #Ngo_123 #grace

How’s your day going so far? Remember: ✅ Take a deep breath ✅ Stretch a little ✅ Hydrate ✅ Keep pushing — you’ve got this! Sometimes the second half of the day is where the magic happens #knowledge #gbemiking #GoodAfternoon #StayPositive

In life, let your choices be your own and owe no one any obligation for justification. If you realize you have made a mistake, you should take responsibility and make amends. Own your choices, stand by your decisions and actions without feeling the need to explain them to others. Stay true to yourself, and don't compromise your values or decisions to fit in or seek validation from others. Recognize when you are wrong and take steps to correct your mistakes. Pay more attention to actions, not words. HAPPY NEW MONTH NAKUPENDIANS!! #Motivation #Nakupenda #Subewo

#softsmile # passion One day the sun will rise, and you won't. so live like today is borrowed. GOOD MORNING *(PLEASE STAY SAFE)*

4 months after I was born, my mom went back to University to get her degree. I'm her third child. She left me and my siblings with our Dad and paternal grandma and came home only weekends for three years until she finished her degree. She left 3 under-5 and went to pursue her career. At 28, she was doing her NYSC and pregnant with her 4th child. At 40, she already had her master's degree. She has been a civil servant since 1993. Now, at 61, she is at the peak of her career. A level 17 officer, Permanent Secretary grade. (Edit - Note: in 2023, Delta State increased retirement age from 60 to 65.) My aunty who was my mother's secondary mate and got married same year my mother got married, didn't continue with her education like my mom did. She had three children and tried to go back in her 40s when her last child was in secondary school, but she was only able to acquire tc2 (or whatever they call it). At the long run. My mom raised four successful biological children. My aunty raised three successful biological children. No, my aunty's children did NOT turn out better just because she gave up career and dreams to raise them. If you are measuring success based on wealth and quality and level of education, we are far ahead. There are no studies, research or statistics that indicate that children of stay-at-home mothers do better. If I could be asked to choose between an illiterate mother who stayed at home throughout my childhood and gave up career just to watch me VERSUS my mother who is a top/senior civil servant at the peak of her career, a boss in the office and boss at home, I would DEFINITELY choose the latter, and I'm glad that the latter is my reality. My father told me that he had opportunity to travel to the US or UK when I was just four. He was to travel there for research and enroute into becoming a university lecturer/professor. But he turned down the opportunity because he wanted to be there to watch his children grow every minute. Do you know what I told him? I told him that he should have gone. Some of my siblings also told him he should have gone. Imagine the children he stayed for telling him that he should have gone. My father's colleague who also got same offer went and came back for his family one year later. So, I told my father that leaving his family for a year or two would have been a worthwhile sacrifice to pay for a better future. He should have gone and come back for us a year or two later. My father was a very successful man, more educated than my mother and also got to the peak of his career, but not half as successful as he would have been if he had taken some risks, including leaving his children for a year or two. Why am I writing all these? For those women who abandon their dreams, careers and aspirations because of their children. Someday, your children who you abandoned your career for will ask you WHY? They will tell you that you should have pursued your career. Like I said, my father sacrificed career progression for us his children. My mother did NOT sacrifice career pursuit for anybody. While I understand the sacrifice my father made, as a grown adult, I still think my mother made the better choice. So, my dear women/mothers, I can tell you that at the long run, your children would be most proud of you if you pursue your career and achieve great career heights. I went back to full-time studies January to December 2024. I had my daughter in-between in April 2024. I got an extra degree and with that, I'm applying for jobs and negotiating salaries more than twice my salary in my last job. It wasn't easy doing that while nursing a baby, but I did it. My children would grow up seeing a strong mommy who didn't abandon her dreams. I want my daughter to know that she should never abandon her dream or chosen career for any reason or anyone. I don't want my children to ask me WHY? It's not easy combining academic/career and family. But nothing good comes too easily. Just do your best within your power and the opportunity and resources available to you. Copied ✍️

#waskydone Dedication and commitment are what turn a into a true team. When every member gives their best, not just for themselves but for each other, success becomes a shared achievement. It’s about showing up, staying focused, and pushing forward—together.

#ATTENDENT #GODSUNSHINE13 #FAVOUR DON'T LET THE HEAT BURN YOU DOWN REMEMBER ALWAYS STAY STRONGER 💪💪

Happiness takes knowledge and self decision to stay with positive energies, and we can pass that to our children. Stay happy 😊 #SpreadTheLove #PeaceOfMind #Grateful

The Behaviours of a Confident Person You Need to Emulate. 1. Speak up when you have something to say. Do not be afraid of speaking your mind. 2. Take time to relax and reflect on what you have achieved and achieving. 3. Be decisive when making decisions; trust your own judgement. 4. Make mistakes but learn from them. Recognize failure as a learning opportunity. 5. Maintain good body language. Stand up straight and make eye contact with others. 6. Aim high but be realistic in your goals and expectations. Set manageable milestones that are achievable and work towards those instead of worrying about perfection. 7. Think positively and look for the good in any situation, no matter how bad it may seem at the time. 8. Recognize successes, even small ones. Take pride in what you have achieved! 9. Practice self-care. Find balance between taking care of your mental and physical health in order to stay energized and be motivated. #SpreadTheLove #PeaceOfMind

Don't repeat the mistakes of some of our fathers. Please 🙏 stay glued to Nakupenda AKA Nakupapa and #grace will find you. #Attendance #Uchman #grace

How do couples who stay together and doing it raw avoid pregnancy ?

This evening I planned to meet with Jeremy's mother the moment I returned from work. His mum goes out very early in the morning and comes back late at night. Since it was about to rain heavily, I felt the mum would have returned home earlier today. So when I got back home this evening, I changed and headed straight for an eatery to buy some snacks for Jeremy. I bought an extra plate for the mother as well. I took these snacks and went to the house to knock. Jeremy was the one who opened the door when I knocked. He paused like he had seen a ghost. Then he glanced back and returned his gaze to me and whispered. "Dad." I whispered back. "Jeremy." Is your mummy in?" "Yes. She just came back." "Tell her I want to see her." He froze for a moment. I could see fear in his eyes. "Will you be in trouble?" I asked. He nodded his head. I understood his fear. I knew he was scared of his mother's reaction. Especially as she had already warned him about me. Just as I was about to turn back, his mother showed up at the door and opened the curtain. She must have heard my voice when I was talking with Jeremy. She pushed Jeremy behind her and the boy just went inside. "Good evening." "What do you want?" "I came to talk with you and I also brought some snacks and food for you and for Jeremy too. I stopped by the eatery." Jeremy was peeping through the window and I could see his face. "Did Jeremy tell you we were hungry?" "No...no. Not at all. I just wanted to see you and discuss with you. So I felt I shouldn't come empty-handed. I thought of what to get and believe me this was the best thing I could come up with." "We are not hungry, sir. We just ate dinner not long ago." I nodded. "Can I come in. So we talk?" "About what?" "Ummm... I understand you do not know me that well. I am your neighbor. I stay just over there. Jeremy and I have been friends and I met him once when I gave him a lift to school and since then I have been giving him lifts to school." "Are you a driver?" "No... I am a writer and script writer and I work for an establishment as well." "So since you are not a driver why are you interested in giving him a lift?" "I just... I mean since we go out together in the morning and I... Madam listen. Jeremy is a nice boy and I have seen him as my son as well as you have. I just wanted you to understand..." "Jeremy is not looking for a father. If he were I would have shown him where his father is. Please stay clear from my son. Please." She entered the house and shut the door angrily. For a moment I felt embarassed and useless. Jeremy waved at me and I waved back. I do not know if he was saying sorry or saying goodnight to me. But before I could wave back, his mother forcefully dragged him away from the window. I felt bad. I turned and left. On my way home, I got beaten by the rain. My clothes were drentched. It was as if the heavens were in agreement with her. I do not know if to stay off or try one more time. I do not know at all #nakupenda #Discipline