• I have done and refresh all the the steps posted in the group. Trying to post a picture and videos now to see if it would work
    I have done and refresh all the the steps posted in the group. Trying to post a picture and videos now to see if it would work
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  • What are the best ways to meet new people?


    Meeting new people can be an exciting adventure! Here are some of the best ways to expand your social circle:

    Join a Class or Workshop: Whether it's cooking, painting, or a new language, classes are a great way to meet people with similar interests.
    Participate in Sports Leagues: Engaging in team sports not only keeps you active but also helps you bond with teammates.
    Attend Local Events: Check out community events, festivals, or markets. These gatherings are perfect for mingling.
    Volunteer: Helping out for a cause you care about can connect you with like-minded individuals.
    Use Social Platforms: Websites like Meetup.com or local Facebook groups can help you find events and activities in your area.
    Frequent Local Cafés or Libraries: Regular visits to local spots can lead to casual conversations and new friendships.
    Language Cafés: If you're interested in learning a new language, these informal gatherings are a fun way to meet people.
    Each of these options offers a unique way to connect with others. Which one sounds the most appealing to you?
    #Discipline
    #nakupenda
    #@mybest
    What are the best ways to meet new people? Meeting new people can be an exciting adventure! Here are some of the best ways to expand your social circle: Join a Class or Workshop: Whether it's cooking, painting, or a new language, classes are a great way to meet people with similar interests. Participate in Sports Leagues: Engaging in team sports not only keeps you active but also helps you bond with teammates. Attend Local Events: Check out community events, festivals, or markets. These gatherings are perfect for mingling. Volunteer: Helping out for a cause you care about can connect you with like-minded individuals. Use Social Platforms: Websites like Meetup.com or local Facebook groups can help you find events and activities in your area. Frequent Local Cafés or Libraries: Regular visits to local spots can lead to casual conversations and new friendships. Language Cafés: If you're interested in learning a new language, these informal gatherings are a fun way to meet people. Each of these options offers a unique way to connect with others. Which one sounds the most appealing to you? 😊 #Discipline #nakupenda #@mybest
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  • We often hear the phrase "everyone knows that," but what does it really mean? Common knowledge refers to facts and ideas that are widely accepted and understood by most people, without needing special research or explanation.

    Think of it as the kind of information you wouldn’t need to Google or footnote in an essay. For instance, we all know the Earth orbits the Sun, that water boils at 100°C, and that Shakespeare was a playwright. These are pieces of knowledge we encounter early and often, making them part of our collective understanding.

    But here's the catch: what’s “common” to one group may not be to another. Cultural, regional, and educational differences mean that what one person assumes as obvious might be brand new to someone else.

    That’s why it’s always worth thinking twice before assuming something is known to everyone. Whether you’re writing, teaching, or just having a conversation, knowing the boundaries of common knowledge can help you communicate more clearly—and more kindly.

    So next time you find yourself saying, “That’s just common sense,” ask: is it really
    #knowledge
    We often hear the phrase "everyone knows that," but what does it really mean? Common knowledge refers to facts and ideas that are widely accepted and understood by most people, without needing special research or explanation. Think of it as the kind of information you wouldn’t need to Google or footnote in an essay. For instance, we all know the Earth orbits the Sun, that water boils at 100°C, and that Shakespeare was a playwright. These are pieces of knowledge we encounter early and often, making them part of our collective understanding. But here's the catch: what’s “common” to one group may not be to another. Cultural, regional, and educational differences mean that what one person assumes as obvious might be brand new to someone else. That’s why it’s always worth thinking twice before assuming something is known to everyone. Whether you’re writing, teaching, or just having a conversation, knowing the boundaries of common knowledge can help you communicate more clearly—and more kindly. So next time you find yourself saying, “That’s just common sense,” ask: is it really #knowledge
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  • INTERNET AND THE EMERGING ZOMBIE GENERATION IN NIGERIA.

    JAMB PERFORMANCE BY NIGERIAN STUDENTS SINCE 2007..

    In 2007 -. 66% of NGR students scored 200 and above..

    in 2008 - 63% scored 200 and above

    2010 - 41% scored 200 and above..

    2015 - 30% scored 200 and above...

    2019 -. 24% scored 200 and above...

    2023 - 23% scored 200 and above...

    2025 - 22% scored 200 and above...

    by 2035 if nothing is done to arrest this worrying decline, This yahoo and jenzzy generation will call for the ending of JAMB...

    By 2050, university entry criteria will just be anyone who can spell his father's name...

    most of this kids who fail JAMB and still get higher institution admission behave like kids who didn't attend primary school..

    Education standard in NGR is in a state of coma ...
    if nothing is done urgent.... it would be permanently buried....
    Let’s stop lying.

    *FUTURES CRUSHED. A NATION EXPOSED.*

    - JAMB 2025 RESULT IS A DISASTER*

    The 2025 JAMB results are here. A disaster. OVER 1.5 MILLION STUDENTS SCORED BELOW 200.

    *WE ALL FAILED.*

    PARENTS: YOU RAISED FRAUDS, NOT CHILDREN

    You paid for “SPECIAL CENTRES” to cheat WAEC.
    You cared more about BRAGGING RIGHTS THAN BEDTIME STORIES.
    You taught your child to CUT CORNERS, NOT SOLVE PROBLEMS.
    Now JAMB strips off the mask, and they drown.
    What did you expect?
    You wanted SHORTCUTS, NOT KNOWLEDGE.
    Your child can’t think, but they know how to cheat. IS THIS PRIDE?

    *DEAR SCHOOLS AND TEACHERS, YOU SOLD SOULS FOR PROFIT*

    School owners, you hired teachers who couldn’t spell “education.”
    Classrooms became TRADING FLOORS.

    Teachers, you leaked exams, whispered answers, and called it “help.”

    You had one job: TO BUILD MINDS. Instead, YOU BUILT LIARS.

    Your students can’t write a sentence, but they know how to bypass integrity.
    SHAME ON YOU.


    *DEAR STUDENTS: YOU CHOSE EASY OVER EXCELLENCE*

    TikTok over textbooks. Parties over past questions.

    You mocked the “bookworms,” then prayed for miracles.

    You thought JAMB would “sort itself.” Now reality hits: LIFE DOESN’T FORWARD ANSWERS IN A WHATSAPP GROUP.

    You can afford to buy data, and get iPhones, but CAN'T BUY TEXTBOOKS OR SERIOUSNESS.

    You gambled with your future. WAKE UP.


    *TO OUR GOVERNMENT, YOU WATCHED THE FIRE BURN*

    You UNDERFUNDED SCHOOLS UNTIL ROOFS CAVED IN.

    You let UNQUALIFIED TEACHERS flood classrooms.

    You ignored “MIRACLE CENTRES” because palms were greased.

    Where are the POLICIES? THE OVERSIGHT? THE URGENCY?

    You talk about “tomorrow’s leaders” while STRANGLING THE SCHOOLS meant to shape them.


    *THIS IS OUR COLLECTIVE SHAME.*

    *PICTURE THIS:*
    Ten years from now, your child is the ENGINEER WHO BUILDS COLLAPSING BRIDGES,
    The DOCTOR WHO KILLS PATIENTS,
    The LEADER WHO STEALS BILLIONS.

    IS THIS THE FUTURE YOU WANT?

    We built this with:

    1. Parents who VALUED TROPHIES OVER TRUTH,
    2. Schools that SOLD CERTIFICATES, NOT CHARACTER,
    3. Students who TRADED GRIT FOR GOSSIP,
    4. And a government that LOOKED AWAY AND FAILED TO ACT.

    It is nearly impossible for anyone who scored B’s & A’s in their WAEC WITHOUT MALPRACTICE to score below 200 in JAMB.

    *SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY WRONG!*

    ©Paddylay
    INTERNET AND THE EMERGING ZOMBIE GENERATION IN NIGERIA. JAMB PERFORMANCE BY NIGERIAN STUDENTS SINCE 2007.. In 2007 -. 66% of NGR students scored 200 and above.. in 2008 - 63% scored 200 and above 2010 - 41% scored 200 and above.. 2015 - 30% scored 200 and above... 2019 -. 24% scored 200 and above... 2023 - 23% scored 200 and above... 2025 - 22% scored 200 and above... by 2035 if nothing is done to arrest this worrying decline, This yahoo and jenzzy generation will call for the ending of JAMB... By 2050, university entry criteria will just be anyone who can spell his father's name... most of this kids who fail JAMB and still get higher institution admission behave like kids who didn't attend primary school.. Education standard in NGR is in a state of coma ... if nothing is done urgent.... it would be permanently buried.... Let’s stop lying. *FUTURES CRUSHED. A NATION EXPOSED.* - JAMB 2025 RESULT IS A DISASTER* The 2025 JAMB results are here. A disaster. OVER 1.5 MILLION STUDENTS SCORED BELOW 200. *WE ALL FAILED.* PARENTS: YOU RAISED FRAUDS, NOT CHILDREN You paid for “SPECIAL CENTRES” to cheat WAEC. You cared more about BRAGGING RIGHTS THAN BEDTIME STORIES. You taught your child to CUT CORNERS, NOT SOLVE PROBLEMS. Now JAMB strips off the mask, and they drown. What did you expect? You wanted SHORTCUTS, NOT KNOWLEDGE. Your child can’t think, but they know how to cheat. IS THIS PRIDE? *DEAR SCHOOLS AND TEACHERS, YOU SOLD SOULS FOR PROFIT* School owners, you hired teachers who couldn’t spell “education.” Classrooms became TRADING FLOORS. Teachers, you leaked exams, whispered answers, and called it “help.” You had one job: TO BUILD MINDS. Instead, YOU BUILT LIARS. Your students can’t write a sentence, but they know how to bypass integrity. SHAME ON YOU. *DEAR STUDENTS: YOU CHOSE EASY OVER EXCELLENCE* TikTok over textbooks. Parties over past questions. You mocked the “bookworms,” then prayed for miracles. You thought JAMB would “sort itself.” Now reality hits: LIFE DOESN’T FORWARD ANSWERS IN A WHATSAPP GROUP. You can afford to buy data, and get iPhones, but CAN'T BUY TEXTBOOKS OR SERIOUSNESS. You gambled with your future. WAKE UP. *TO OUR GOVERNMENT, YOU WATCHED THE FIRE BURN* You UNDERFUNDED SCHOOLS UNTIL ROOFS CAVED IN. You let UNQUALIFIED TEACHERS flood classrooms. You ignored “MIRACLE CENTRES” because palms were greased. Where are the POLICIES? THE OVERSIGHT? THE URGENCY? You talk about “tomorrow’s leaders” while STRANGLING THE SCHOOLS meant to shape them. *THIS IS OUR COLLECTIVE SHAME.* *PICTURE THIS:* Ten years from now, your child is the ENGINEER WHO BUILDS COLLAPSING BRIDGES, The DOCTOR WHO KILLS PATIENTS, The LEADER WHO STEALS BILLIONS. IS THIS THE FUTURE YOU WANT? We built this with: 1. Parents who VALUED TROPHIES OVER TRUTH, 2. Schools that SOLD CERTIFICATES, NOT CHARACTER, 3. Students who TRADED GRIT FOR GOSSIP, 4. And a government that LOOKED AWAY AND FAILED TO ACT. It is nearly impossible for anyone who scored B’s & A’s in their WAEC WITHOUT MALPRACTICE to score below 200 in JAMB. *SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY WRONG!* ©Paddylay
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  • Make money from social media...by creating and monetising your groups...
    #chinosky
    #grace
    Make money from social media...by creating and monetising your groups... #chinosky #grace
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  • Calling on all bakers and lovers of Confectioneries to join this group
    https://betatesting.nakupenda.app/groups/GsTasty
    Let's build a community here and showcase our beautiful jobs

    #Happiness
    #GsTasty
    Calling on all bakers and lovers of Confectioneries to join this group https://betatesting.nakupenda.app/groups/GsTasty Let's build a community here and showcase our beautiful jobs #Happiness #GsTasty
    Pendamoore D6e32072c577f893f20572085e01699a
    BETATESTING.NAKUPENDA.APP
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    Share your memories, connect with others, make new friends
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  • THINGS THAT MAKE A CHAT GROUP ACTIVE
    Please watch till the end.
    #Chinosky
    #grace
    THINGS THAT MAKE A CHAT GROUP ACTIVE Please watch till the end. #Chinosky #grace
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  • Let's talk about ponzi schemes in Nigeria

    Ponzi schemes have devastated many Nigerians and Africans causing financial losses and eroding trust. Despite the risks, many still fall victim.

    Let's discuss

    The Impact.
    The causes
    Prevention.



    #FINANCIALMINDSET
    #WHICHWAY
    #QUICKMONEY
    #PASSION
    #GROUPD
    Let's talk about ponzi schemes in Nigeria Ponzi schemes have devastated many Nigerians and Africans causing financial losses and eroding trust. Despite the risks, many still fall victim. Let's discuss The Impact. The causes Prevention. #FINANCIALMINDSET #WHICHWAY #QUICKMONEY #PASSION #GROUPD
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  • *HOW TO MAINTAIN PEACE IN THE GROUP YOU BELONG TO.*

    *(1).* Take everything as joke.

    *(2).* No one is bigger than others in the group.

    *(3).* No one is too important for the group.

    *(4).* Everyone should do his or her best.

    *(5).* When having issues with a group member, don't leave, but stay to resolve and address.

    *(6).* No one gets paid so it's a thing of love and volunteering efforts.

    *(7).* Live your normal life, you are unique and without you the group will be boring.

    *(8).* Never expect someone else to build the group, but do your best by making your contribution.

    *(9).* Group members should learn how to socialize, meet new friends and improve on their social skills.

    *(10).* Always respond to greetings by leaving out pride, arrogance, and boastfulness.

    *(11).* Anything that happens outside the group must remain outside.

    *(12).* Groups are always for fun, so let's make and have fun out of whatever is posted. Don't just read a post, make a comment to enrich it.
    #Emacraft
    #Consistency
    #Nakupenda
    *HOW TO MAINTAIN PEACE IN THE GROUP YOU BELONG TO.* 🙄 *(1).* Take everything as joke. 🙄 *(2).* No one is bigger than others in the group. 🙄 *(3).* No one is too important for the group. 🙄 *(4).* Everyone should do his or her best. 🙄 *(5).* When having issues with a group member, don't leave, but stay to resolve and address. 🙄 *(6).* No one gets paid so it's a thing of love and volunteering efforts. 🙄 *(7).* Live your normal life, you are unique and without you the group will be boring. 🙄 *(8).* Never expect someone else to build the group, but do your best by making your contribution. 🙄 *(9).* Group members should learn how to socialize, meet new friends and improve on their social skills. 🙄 *(10).* Always respond to greetings by leaving out pride, arrogance, and boastfulness. 🙄 *(11).* Anything that happens outside the group must remain outside. 🙄 *(12).* Groups are always for fun, so let's make and have fun out of whatever is posted. Don't just read a post, make a comment to enrich it. #Emacraft #Consistency #Nakupenda
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  • *SUCCESS IS A DECISION!*

    Every day, people make choices.

    *Some are earning*—because they took action.

    *Some are watching*—waiting for the "perfect moment" that never comes.

    *Some are joining*—seeking a breakthrough.

    *Some are leaving*—because they didn’t see results fast enough.

    *Some have joined, but not working*—hoping success will come without effort.

    *Some are confirmed spectators*—always watching, never doing.

    *Some don't know why they joined the group*—lost in indecision.

    *Some joined, but don't know what is happening*—because they never asked or learned.

    *Some joined to copy and paste*—but success isn’t a shortcut, it’s a journey.

    But no matter where you stand today, *ONE THING IS SURE:*

    Success is not about luck.

    Success is not about talent.

    Success is a *DECISION.*

    #happiness
    *SUCCESS IS A DECISION!* Every day, people make choices. 💥 *Some are earning*—because they took action. 💥 *Some are watching*—waiting for the "perfect moment" that never comes. 💥 *Some are joining*—seeking a breakthrough. 💥 *Some are leaving*—because they didn’t see results fast enough. 💥 *Some have joined, but not working*—hoping success will come without effort. 💥 *Some are confirmed spectators*—always watching, never doing. 💥 *Some don't know why they joined the group*—lost in indecision. 💥 *Some joined, but don't know what is happening*—because they never asked or learned. 💥 *Some joined to copy and paste*—but success isn’t a shortcut, it’s a journey. But no matter where you stand today, *ONE THING IS SURE:* ✅ Success is not about luck. ✅ Success is not about talent. ✅ Success is a *DECISION.* #happiness
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  • My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was 9500/- and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only 1500/- to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
    .
    I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
    .
    One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.”
    I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. 74,734/-.
    And this girl has been crying poverty?
    .
    I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
    .
    All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for.
    I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
    .
    She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
    .
    The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?”
    She asked, “What have I done?”
    I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?”
    She was shocked.
    She asked, “Who told you all that?”
    I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while.
    She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about”
    I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
    .
    We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry.
    He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?”
    I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”
    He asked me, “I told you that?”
    I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?”
    He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware....
    .
    My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
    .
    Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter.
    I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.”
    Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize.
    “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
    .
    I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.”
    From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first.
    Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.”
    Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
    .
    I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.”
    The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions...

    #copied
    #Discipline
    #beopentoyourcouple
    My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was 9500/- and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only 1500/- to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.” . I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account. . One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. 74,734/-. And this girl has been crying poverty? . I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation. . All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.” . She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. . The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” . We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.... . My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.” . Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.” . I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.” . I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions... #copied #Discipline #beopentoyourcouple
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