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#abimfolu #grace THE HARE AND THE TORTOISE Once, there was a hare who was best friends with a tortoise. The hare was very proud of how fast he could run, so one day, he challenged the tortoise to a race. The tortoise agreed, even though everyone thought he was way too slow to win. The race began, and the hare raced so fast that he was far ahead of the tortoise. Feeling confident, the hare decided to take a nap under a tree while the tortoise kept going, step by step. When the hare woke up, he was shocked to see the tortoise crossing the finish line. The tortoise had won the race! Moral of the story: It doesn’t matter how fast or strong you are—what matters is being steady and never giving up. And don’t be too proud, it can cause trouble!

We will light up the world with love and happiness. #Nakupenda #Happiness #Ini

PUNCH Newspaper *The unseen crisis facing Nigerian men (moment Otunba Kunle Akinyele collapsed)* *Message not just for Men alone, but for everyone* 5th May 2025. Ganiyu Olowu *When Otunba Kunle Akinyele, a respected hotelier in Lagos, slumped and died at his wife’s 60th birthday thanksgiving, the nation gasped in disbelief. One moment, he was celebrating life and love; the next, he lay lifeless at the altar of joy*. The video is haunting — *a man gesturing, gasping, reaching for help in a sacred space, surrounded by those he loved but alone in his final battle.* This was not just a death. It was a metaphor of silent suffering, buried exhaustion, and what men have come to normalise in the name of strength. Akinyele’s case is not isolated. It is one of many chilling examples of how Nigerian men, particularly in their mid- to late years, are collapsing under the weight of responsibilities, unspoken pain, and undiagnosed illnesses. According to the World Health Organisation, men in sub-Saharan Africa, including Nigeria, are 2.4 times more likely to die prematurely from preventable causes than women. This alarming disparity is fuelled by cultural and behavioural factors: men are less likely to seek medical help, more likely to suppress emotional turmoil, and often glorify suffering in silence. In Nigeria, cardiovascular diseases, hypertension, and untreated mental health conditions are among the leading causes of sudden deaths in men. So This Happened (215) Reviews Death Of Lagos... In 2019, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya—admired for his strength and spiritual leadership—passed away quietly after years of enduring deep emotional losses and reportedly ongoing health complications. His resilience was legendary, but it masked what many now see as untreated grief, intense stress, and likely silent medical conditions. Then came the sudden death of veteran broadcaster Ayo Oduleye, better known as MC Loyo, who slumped while compering an event in Ibadan. His charm and humour lit up stages, but in the blink of an eye, the microphone fell silent. Just like that. Similarly, the passing of Mr Ibu (John Okafor) in early 2024, after months of battling illness, reminded the country of how many male entertainers struggle financially and physically behind the scenes, putting on a show while their bodies deteriorate. Masculinity, when warped, can become a silent weapon—not just against others, but against oneself. *ENDEAVOUR TO TAKE GOOD REST PLEASE* Globally, the story remains the same. In 2014, beloved comedian Robin Williams died by suicide, a victim of masked depression. And in 2022, cricket legend Shane Warne died suddenly of a heart attack, a casualty of silent coronary disease and an overstretched lifestyle. Yet while statistics shock and headlines haunt, the everyday grind of the average Nigerian man tells an even sadder tale. Take Lagos, Nigeria’s commercial capital—the city that never sleeps, and where many men now barely do. A significant number of working-class men reside on the mainland or in Ogun border towns like Mowe, Ikorodu, Sango Ota, or Ibafo but must commute to the Island for work—a journey that often begins by 4:00 a.m. and ends by 9:00 p.m. on return. This is no exaggeration. Studies from the Lagos Metropolitan Area Transport Authority reveal that Lagosians spend an average of four to six hours daily in traffic—with many men doing these five to six times a week. That is over 1,400 hours a year lost in gridlock—time stolen from rest, from family, from reflection. For these men, the day begins before the rooster crows. They rush into overcrowded buses, endure fumes of frustration, only to return home when their children are already asleep. There is no room for hobbies, hardly any time for checkups, no outlet for pain. Sleep is a luxury. Rest is a myth. And joy is rationed, like fuel in a scarcity season. This modern man is constantly running on empty—physically present but emotionally absent, financially committed but spiritually depleted. And society applauds his hustle, without asking at what cost. The idiom says, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” but what if the crown is invisible, made not of gold but of expectations, bills, unspoken grief, and sacrificial silence? Men are praised for providing, for showing up, for being “rocks”. But even rocks erode—silently, slowly, and then all at once. The greatest tragedy is not that they die, but that they are dying unseen. Consider the tragic case of a 42 year old engineer in Port Harcourt who collapsed at his workstation after weeks of working overtime to meet project deadlines. His colleagues described him as “dedicated to a fault”, but his sudden death revealed the dangers of ignoring signs of burnout and hypertension. Another heartbreaking example is the story of a young entrepreneur in Enugu who passed away in his sleep after complaining of chest pains for weeks. Despite his family’s pleas, he refused to visit a doctor, citing his busy schedule and financial obligations. His autopsy later revealed undiagnosed cardiovascular disease—a silent killer that could have been managed with timely intervention. One unforgettable story is that of Samuel Okwaraji, the gifted footballer and patriot who gave everything to his country on the football pitch. In 1989, during a World Cup qualifier against Angola in Lagos, Okwaraji collapsed and tragically died of congestive heart failure at just 25 years old. His life, so full of promises, was cut short under the intense demands of national expectation. The harsh conditions of the game that day, combined with the immense physical and psychological pressures he faced, ultimately proved too much. These stories compel us to ask: What are we doing to ourselves in the name of strength? Why does the world celebrate silent suffering but frown upon seeking help? Dr Salawu Abiola, a psychiatrist at the Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital in Yaba, offers critical advice for men navigating these pressures. He emphasises the importance of prioritising rest, adequate sleep, and regular health checkups. “If you work and die today, someone will replace you at the workplace, but no one replaces you in the family,” he warns. Abiola advocates setting realistic goals, managing time effectively, and creating moments of joy and relaxation amid life’s challenges. He also highlights the need for men to engage in positive activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and socialising with supportive people, to release built-up tension and foster mental well-being. Check your vitals before you check your wallet. Monthly profit means nothing if your heart gives out unexpectedly. Your strength is not in how much you carry but in how well you manage your load. Therapy is not weakness. It is a repair. Just like a car needs servicing, your mind and soul need realignment. Build relationships where you are more than a provider—where you are allowed to cry, collapse, confess. A good name is better than riches, but good health is the foundation of both. As Chinua Achebe once said, “When the drumbeat changes, the dance must also change.” The drumbeat of life today is faster, louder, and less forgiving. Men must adjust their rhythm. Health is the new wealth. Silence is no longer golden; it is dangerous. *Ganiyu Olowu, a public affairs analyst, writes from Lagos*. punchng.com ©️ 1971- 2025 Punch Nigeria Limited *MAY WE ALL LIVE LONG IN JESUS NAME* 🙏 CULLED #olufaderomi #grace

Some time ago, I accompanied a friend to a conference at a hotel, where he was scheduled to meet someone. While waiting for him in the lobby area just outside one of the conference halls, I sat quietly, scrolling through my phone and minding my business. After a while, I noticed people going in and out of the hall beside me. Curiosity made me look up. A PhD defense was ongoing, I wasn’t really paying attention until I heard gentle clapping from inside the hall. Then came the turn of a middle-aged man, probably in his late 50s. He stood at the front with a soft, shaky demeanor. He spoke slowly, carefully picking his words. Every few sentences, he paused.. not for effect, but because he stuttered. Still, each time he managed to get through a point, the audience clapped.. not out of pity, but in admiration and respect. Toward the end, his voice broke. He asked everyone to kindly rise for a minute silence in honor of his wife, who had recently passed away. And in that moment of silence, he broke down in tears. What I learned afterward left me speechless. The man had only a diploma in Business Administration when he got married. His wife, a successful banker, pushed him to go back to school. She supported him through a BSc, then a master’s, and finally the PhD program he was now completing. But just months before he would earn the title “Doctor,” his wife lost her life to breast cancer. He was shattered. She had been his strength, his motivation, and his helper. She had even taken time off her busy banking schedule to help him share questionnaires during his research. Though she herself had only a master’s degree, she pushed her husband beyond that point, right up to the very top. Now here he was, defending his thesis without her beside him. That’s when I truly understood the kind of love that doesn’t compete, the kind of spouse who gives you wings to fly without fear of your success. Not everyone is lucky to have such a partner, one who celebrates your growth, fights for your dream like it’s theirs, and stands by you even when life tries to break you. #knowledge #Blessing

Good Friday Message: Today, we pause and remember the ultimate act of love — when Jesus Christ gave His life for us on the cross. In His suffering, we see forgiveness. In His sacrifice, we find salvation. And in His final words, “It is finished,” we receive the greatest hope — that no sin is too great, no heart too broken, and no soul beyond His grace. As we reflect on the cross, let us be humbled by His mercy and inspired by His love. May this Good Friday remind us that even in darkness, God’s light shines through, and from sorrow, resurrection comes. 🙏🙏🙏 “By His wounds, we are healed.” — Isaiah 53:5 #happiness #AWESOMEGOD

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*MEDICAL NUMBERS IN THE LIFE OF EVERY HUMAN BEING* 1. Blood pressure: 120 / 80 2. Pulse: 70 - 100 3. Temperature: 36.8 - 37 4. Respiration: 12-16 5. Hemoglobin: Males (13.50-18) Females ( 11.50 - 16 ) 6. Cholesterol: 130 - 200 7. Potassium: 3.50 - 5 8. Sodium: 135 - 145 9. Triglycerides: 220 10. The amount of blood in the body: Pcv 30-40% 11. Sugar: for Children (70-130) Adults: 70 - 115 12. Iron: 8-15 mg 13. White blood cells: 4000 - 11000 14. Platelets: 150,000 - 400,000 15. Red blood cells: 4.50 - 6 million.. 16. Calcium: 8.6 - 10.3 mg/dL 17. Vitamin D3: 20 - 50 ng/ml (nanograms per milliliter) 18. Vitamin B12: 200 - 900 pg/ml *Tips for those who have reached Over:* the *40years* the *50* the *60* *First tip:* Always drink water even if you don't feel thirsty or need it... the biggest health problems and most of them are from the lack of water in the body. 2 litres Minimum per day (24 hours) *Second tip:* Play sports even when you are at the top of your preoccupation...the body must be moved, even if only by walking...or swimming...or any kind of sports. 🚶 Walking is Good for a Start... 👌 *Third Tip:* Reduce food... Leave excessive food cravings... because it never brings good. Don't deprive yourself, but reduce the quantities. Use more Of Protein, Carbohydrates based Foods. *Fourth tip* As much as possible, do not use the Car unless absolutely necessary... Try to reach on your Feet for what you want ( grocery, visiting someone...) or any goal. Climb Stairs, than use Elevator, Escalator *Fifth tip* let go of ANGER... let go of Anger... let go of anger... Let go of Worry.... try to overlook things... Do not involve yourself in situations of Disturbance... they all diminish health and take away the splendor of the soul. Choose a babysitter you feel comfortable with. Talk to People who are Positive and Listen 👂 *Sixth tip* As it is said..leave your Money in the Sun.. and sit in the Shade.. don't limit yourself and those around you... money was made to live By it, not to live For it. *Seventh tip* Don't make yourself feel Sorry for anyone, nor on something you could not Achieve, Nor anything that you could not Own. Ignore it, Forget it; *Eighth tip* Humility.. then humility.. for Money, Prestige, Power and Influence... they are all things that are corrupted by Arrogance and arrogance.. Humility is what brings people Closer to you with Love. ☺ *Ninth tip* If your hair turns Grey, this does not mean the End of Life. It is proof that a Better life has Begun. 🙋 Be Optimistic, live with Remembrance, Travel, Enjoy yourself. Make Memories! *It may help someone when you share it*👀 TO ALL ELDERS IN THE HOUSE, KINDLY FOLLOW UP. IT IS VERY NECESSARY TO FOLLOW THIS INSTRUCTION STEP BY STEP. HEALTH HINTS FOR MY ELDERS ****************** However busy you are, observe all these to remain healthy: :::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: Drink less milk in your tea. Instead, add lemon or lime juice. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the day time, drink more water; but night time, drink less. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the day don't drink more than 2 cups of coffee, Advisable To Stop Completely too. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eat less oily foods. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Best sleeping times are between 10pm to 6am. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In the evening, eat little or nothing after 5 or 6pm. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Don't take medicines with cold water but with warm, and take your medicines half an hour before going to bed. Never take medicines and lie down immediately. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ As you aged further , stop drinking chilled water but drink only water at room temperature ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Try to sleep for at least 8 hours per day. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Having a nap for an hour and a half between noon and 3pm, to relieve stress and keep younger and not age easily. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Once your mobile phone battery is left with only one bar, don't make calls anymore, because the dangerous radiation and waves are one many times higher than a fully charged battery. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Use your left ear to answer calls, right ear will directly hurt your brain. 😳 Better still to use earphones to answer calls. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Two things to check as often as you can: (1) Your blood pressure (2) Your blood sugar. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Six things to reduce to the minimum on your foods: (1) Salt (2) Sugar (3) Preserved meat and foods (4) Red meat especially roasted (5) Dairy products (6) Starchy products ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Four things to increase in your foods: (1) Greens/vegetables (2) Beans (3) Fruits (4) Nuts ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Three things you need to forget: (1) Your age 😮 (2) Your past 🤔 (3) Your worries/grievances 👍🏽 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Four things you must have, no matter how weak or how strong you are: (1) Friends who truly love you (2) Caring family (3) Positive thoughts (4) A warm home. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Seven things you need to do to stay healthy: (1) Singing (2) Dancing (3) Fasting (4) Smiling/laughing (5) Trek/exercise (6) Have sex often with your love (7) Reduce your weight. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Six things you don't have to do: (1) Don't wait till you are hungry to eat (2) Don't wait till you are thirsty to drink (3) Don't wait till you are sleepy to sleep (4) Don't wait till you feel tired to rest (5) Don't wait till you get sick to go for medical check-ups otherwise you will only regret later in life (6) Don’t wait till you have problem before you pray to your God. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ One thing you must do after reading these health tips: (1) Forward this to your loved ones and friends, and as you do so, may God bless U. ================= While go about your normal business please let's remember to always check our body to know how fit you are. Health is wealth. MEDICAL FITNES HIGH BP ---------- 120/80 -- Normal 130/85 --Normal (Control) 140/90 -- High 150/95 -- V.High ---------------------------- PULSE -------- 72 per minute (standard) 60 --- 80 p.m. (Normal) 40 -- 180 p.m.(abnormal) ---------------------------- TEMPERATURE ----------------- 98.4 F (Normal) 99.0 F Above (Fever) Please help your Relatives, Friends by sharing this information.... Heart Attacks- - - Drinking Warm Water: This is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal, but about Heart Attack's . The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals, not cold water, maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating. For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is very Harmful to have Cold Drink/Water during a meal. Because, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer . It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal. French fries and Burgers are the biggest enemy of heart health. A coke after that gives more power to this demon. Avoid them for your Heart's & Health. Drink one glass of warm water just when you are about to go to bed to avoid clotting of the blood at night to avoid heart attacks or strokes. A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. ... So, please be a true friend and send this article to people you care about. Must read 👆👌 FOR THE YOUNG ONES 👇 Cheers And Enjoy life Know your genotype before you say yes to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with... Genotype & It's Appropriate Suitor: AA + AA = Excellent AA + AS = Good AA + SS = Fair AS + AS = Bad AS + SS = Very Bad SS + SS = Extremely Bad (In fact, don't try it) #SickleCellAwareness 💉BLOOD GROUP COMPATIBILITY 💉 What’s Your Type and how common is it? O+ 1 in 3 37.4% (Most common) A+ 1 in 3 35.7% B+ 1 in 12 8.5% AB+ 1 in 29 3.4% O- 1 in 15 6.6% A- 1 in 16 6.3% B- 1 in 67 1.5% AB- 1 in 167 .6% (Rarest) Compatible Blood Types O- can receive O- O+ can receive O+, O- A- can receive A-, O- A+ can receive A+, A-, O+, O- B- can receive B-, O- B+ can receive B+, B-, O+, O- AB- can receive AB-, B-, A-, O- AB+ can receive AB+, AB-, B+, B-, A+, A-, O+, O-b This is an important msg which can save a life! A life could be saved.... EFFECT OF WATER 💐 We Know Water is important but never knew about the Special Times one has to drink it.. !! Did you ??? 💦 Drinking Water at the Right Time ⏰ Maximizes its effectiveness on the Human Body; 1⃣ 1 Glass of Water after waking up - 🕕⛅ helps to activate internal organs.. 2⃣ 1 Glass of Water 30 Minutes 🕧 before a Meal - helps digestion.. 3⃣ 1 Glass of Water before taking a Bath 🚿 - helps lower your blood pressure. 4⃣ 1 Glass of Water before going to Bed - 🕙 avoids Stroke or Heart Attack. 'When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, You have a moral obligation to share it with others. #Healthiswealth #Discipline

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4 months after I was born, my mom went back to University to get her degree. I'm her third child. She left me and my siblings with our Dad and paternal grandma and came home only weekends for three years until she finished her degree. She left 3 under-5 and went to pursue her career. At 28, she was doing her NYSC and pregnant with her 4th child. At 40, she already had her master's degree. She has been a civil servant since 1993. Now, at 61, she is at the peak of her career. A level 17 officer, Permanent Secretary grade. (Edit - Note: in 2023, Delta State increased retirement age from 60 to 65.) My aunty who was my mother's secondary mate and got married same year my mother got married, didn't continue with her education like my mom did. She had three children and tried to go back in her 40s when her last child was in secondary school, but she was only able to acquire tc2 (or whatever they call it). At the long run. My mom raised four successful biological children. My aunty raised three successful biological children. No, my aunty's children did NOT turn out better just because she gave up career and dreams to raise them. If you are measuring success based on wealth and quality and level of education, we are far ahead. There are no studies, research or statistics that indicate that children of stay-at-home mothers do better. If I could be asked to choose between an illiterate mother who stayed at home throughout my childhood and gave up career just to watch me VERSUS my mother who is a top/senior civil servant at the peak of her career, a boss in the office and boss at home, I would DEFINITELY choose the latter, and I'm glad that the latter is my reality. My father told me that he had opportunity to travel to the US or UK when I was just four. He was to travel there for research and enroute into becoming a university lecturer/professor. But he turned down the opportunity because he wanted to be there to watch his children grow every minute. Do you know what I told him? I told him that he should have gone. Some of my siblings also told him he should have gone. Imagine the children he stayed for telling him that he should have gone. My father's colleague who also got same offer went and came back for his family one year later. So, I told my father that leaving his family for a year or two would have been a worthwhile sacrifice to pay for a better future. He should have gone and come back for us a year or two later. My father was a very successful man, more educated than my mother and also got to the peak of his career, but not half as successful as he would have been if he had taken some risks, including leaving his children for a year or two. Why am I writing all these? For those women who abandon their dreams, careers and aspirations because of their children. Someday, your children who you abandoned your career for will ask you WHY? They will tell you that you should have pursued your career. Like I said, my father sacrificed career progression for us his children. My mother did NOT sacrifice career pursuit for anybody. While I understand the sacrifice my father made, as a grown adult, I still think my mother made the better choice. So, my dear women/mothers, I can tell you that at the long run, your children would be most proud of you if you pursue your career and achieve great career heights. I went back to full-time studies January to December 2024. I had my daughter in-between in April 2024. I got an extra degree and with that, I'm applying for jobs and negotiating salaries more than twice my salary in my last job. It wasn't easy doing that while nursing a baby, but I did it. My children would grow up seeing a strong mommy who didn't abandon her dreams. I want my daughter to know that she should never abandon her dream or chosen career for any reason or anyone. I don't want my children to ask me WHY? It's not easy combining academic/career and family. But nothing good comes too easily. Just do your best within your power and the opportunity and resources available to you. Copied ✍️

A man took some loan, bought a house, it was about to be seized, just because he could not repay the loan and interest as agreed. He posted his situation on Facebook looking for help, but all he could get was zero comments. So he sent 250 messages to his contact list requesting a loan of #2,000,000. Unfortunately only 10 people responded. 6 out of 10 said they could not help him. And only 1 out of 4 who promised to help and gave him some money. The other 3 gave excuse and never took his calls. In the end, he was ejected. He did not have a place to sleep. He walked in the dark looking for options and unfortunately, A thief stole his empty purse with his ID. The thief was badly hit by a car in high speed as he fled and died without his body being identified. Only the bag containing the identity card served as a marker. The next day the news spread quickly around that he (the Man) had died. 2,500 people posted on his Facebook wall how they knew him and how kind he was. A committee was formed by his"faithful" friends who raised #7,500.000 to feed people at his funeral. His work colleagues organized themselves and brought #11.5m for the coffin, the tents and the chairs. He had to be buried in a coffin worth #3,500.000 but as they hastily bouht it there was a man who sold it to them for #2.000,000 saying it was his contribution. The family met again, it was a rare opportunity for the family to meet again. Then there was a sitting. For the funeral, the family contributed #4,000,000. Everyone wanted to volunteer to show that they were participating. They printed t-shirts and polos for more than #850,000. Now imagine the scene when he decided to show himself up on the day of his burial... While everyone run helter skelter thinking they'd seen a ghost, the man felt embittered, seeing how both family and friends that abandoned him at his darkest hours, extravagantly spent all they had, on mere carcass... So is life today, A sad reality but part of our daily lives. It will surprise you to learn that bulk of all those who talk about how much they love the deceased on burial days, are those who never showed him care and love, when he was alive. Yet, they'll talk from Lagos to abuja, how much they loved him. When a family member is in dire financial need, nobody will help...but the moment he's dead, money will come from all hidings...🤔 Help your brother/sister when he/she needs you. Do not wait for their death to show them your love. It will not help them. #Discipline #loveONEanother #nakupenda

WHEN YOU BECOME DISTRACTED AND LOSE FOCUS; • YOU LOSE CONFIDENCE — losing focus causes you to become unsure of yourself, your vision or your plan. • YOU LOSE CONSISTENCY — losing focus causes you to lose the time, energy and momentum necessary to fulfill your mission. • YOU LOSE CHANCES — losing focus causes you to miss out on opportunities for advancement and growth. • YOU LOSE CREDIBILITY — losing focus causes others to lose confidence in you, your abilities or your stability (resulting in an unwillingness to invest in your dream, vision or venture). • YOU LOSE CONNECTIONS — losing focus causes your relationships to gradually die from a lack of care, concern, consideration or concentration. • YOU LOSE CASH — losing focus can directly impact your finances by robbing you of a job, a career, a company or an important business deal. You cannot afford to lose focus in this season! Don’t wait for someone to “stir” you through inspiration or something to “provoke” you through obligation. Take an inventory of your life—who/what is necessary and who/what is not, who/what is draining you and who/what is sustaining you—then make the hard decisions necessary to recover your focus! Hope this made little sense? #chinosky #grace