Enough of the transactional relationships, let's welcome humanity back to the days we connected deeply because we want to stay. #Knowledge #Makanaki

Do you know, as a woman you have the power that relieves you of stress, make you a home and keep your partner faithful in the relationship. The secret is here in contained in Sex Six Power. Join in the readership as this unfolds on Nakupenda. #attendance #Ngo_123 #grace

WHEN YOU BECOME DISTRACTED AND LOSE FOCUS; • YOU LOSE CONFIDENCE — losing focus causes you to become unsure of yourself, your vision or your plan. • YOU LOSE CONSISTENCY — losing focus causes you to lose the time, energy and momentum necessary to fulfill your mission. • YOU LOSE CHANCES — losing focus causes you to miss out on opportunities for advancement and growth. • YOU LOSE CREDIBILITY — losing focus causes others to lose confidence in you, your abilities or your stability (resulting in an unwillingness to invest in your dream, vision or venture). • YOU LOSE CONNECTIONS — losing focus causes your relationships to gradually die from a lack of care, concern, consideration or concentration. • YOU LOSE CASH — losing focus can directly impact your finances by robbing you of a job, a career, a company or an important business deal. You cannot afford to lose focus in this season! Don’t wait for someone to “stir” you through inspiration or something to “provoke” you through obligation. Take an inventory of your life—who/what is necessary and who/what is not, who/what is draining you and who/what is sustaining you—then make the hard decisions necessary to recover your focus! Hope this made little sense? #chinosky #grace

CONFESSION FOR THE NEW WEEK!!! O God My Father, as I step into this new week, I place my trust in You. I acknowledge that You are the Creator of all things, and You have perfect plans for my life. I release any fear or anxiety that may have been holding me back, knowing that You are my protector and my provider. I declare that this week will be filled with Your wisdom, peace, and favour. Every challenge I face will be an opportunity for growth, and I will overcome all obstacles with Your strength. I will be patient, kind, and loving to those around me, reflecting Your goodness in my words and actions. I declare that my mind is focused on Your truth, and my heart is open to hear Your voice. I will seek Your guidance in every decision I make, trusting that You will lead me along the right path. I speak blessings over my work, my relationships, and every area of my life, knowing that Your grace is sufficient for me. This week, I will be filled with joy and hope, for I know that You are with me every step of the way. I will not be discouraged, for You are my strength, and You hold my future in Your hands. I surrender my plans and desires to You, trusting that You will align them with Your will. I thank You for the strength to persevere and the courage to pursue my goals with faith. This week, I will walk in the fullness of Your peace, knowing that You are in control of all things. I commit this week to You, Lord, and I trust that You will work all things together for my good and Your glory." In Jesus mighty name. A sevenfold Amen "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths." — Proverbs 3:5-6

Please I want to ask Between LOVE and TRUST which do you prefer in your relationship #ATTENDANCE #PASSION

#softsmile #Passion Sometimes saying sorry is the most difficult thing on earth. But it is the cheapest thing to save the most expensive gift called relationship. GOOD MORNING *(PLEASE STAY SAFE)*

Psychology Facts: 1. Being forgetful is a sign of high intelligence. 2. Not arguing or fighting in a relationship represents a lack of interest. 3. People are more honest when they're tired. 4. You have a look-a-like with 7 other people in the world and you probably won't ever meet them. 5. When you're not prepared for a test, your fight or flight kicks in and you feel the need to run. 6. Some people can hear colour, see sound, and taste words (synesthesia) 7. Every 10 years we become a new person and our desires change. Thanks for reading

My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was 9500/- and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only 1500/- to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.” . I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account. . One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. 74,734/-. And this girl has been crying poverty? . I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation. . All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.” . She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. . The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” . We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.... . My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.” . Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.” . I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.” . I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions... #copied #Discipline #beopentoyourcouple

Please how am I supposed to know if I’m in the right relationship? #Grateful #PeaceOfMind

This is deep. Honestly, no one deserves to be kept in the dark like that, especially in marriage. Trust is the backbone of any relationship, and once it’s broken, everything feels shaky. The man gave his all thinking they were building together, only to realize he was walking alone. It hurts. I just pray they both find healing, because carrying that kind of pain daily can break anyone.

Who Truly Benefits from Sex? Man or Woman? The first thought that likely came to your mind was—man. Right? Most people instinctively assume that men derive more pleasure from sex, while women merely endure it. But you might be surprised to learn that reality is quite the opposite. Whether the act lasts five minutes or fifty, a man’s pleasure is condensed into the final five to ten seconds. In contrast, a woman can experience orgasm up to ten times in a single sexual encounter. That means a woman has the potential to enjoy ten times more pleasure than a man. Moreover, the duration of a woman's orgasm is typically twice or even three times longer than that of a man. Of course, not every woman reaches this peak every time. Some may rarely experience it, while others, on average, enjoy it three times per encounter—which is still significantly more than men. Less effort, more reward. This is an undeniable fact. But There’s More to the Story… Orgasm is simply the peak. The journey leading up to it is filled with pleasurable moments, intimate sensations, and deep emotional connections that keep both partners engaged. Both men and women derive enjoyment throughout the experience, but the ultimate climax marks the grand finale. Wise lovers understand that sex is not just about reaching the peak—it’s about savoring every moment of the journey. But If Women Benefit More, Why Are Men Always the Ones Pursuing It? The answer is simple: instinct. God designed sex as a reward system to encourage reproduction. Since women bear the greater burden of pregnancy—carrying a child for nine months—they were naturally endowed with a greater pleasure incentive to ensure they willingly partake in the process. Smart women embrace this natural gift, while the unaware may deprive themselves of it. Let’s be honest—if childbirth pain was the only reward, no woman would ever want to go through it again. But two things keep her coming back: The innate maternal instinct God has placed within her. The unparalleled pleasure and emotional fulfillment that comes with sex. Funny But True… It’s often said that during labor, women curse their husbands, blaming them for the unbearable pain they are experiencing. But can you deny the reality that the same woman, after delivering her child, willingly prepares for another pregnancy within a year? No man forces her into it. There’s no gunpoint coercion. It’s instinct. It’s pleasure. It’s God’s divine system at work. But Then, Why Do Men Chase Women If They Get Less Pleasure? Again, instinct and dominance. God has naturally instilled in men a desire to dominate and lead. A man's greatest pleasure in sex is not just physical—it’s the satisfaction of knowing that he has "conquered" his woman, pleased her, and fulfilled his natural role. Men don’t chase sex just for a few seconds of pleasure. They do it because it reaffirms their strength, their power, their ability to satisfy their woman, and ultimately, their role as a protector and provider. This dominance-driven pleasure fuels their willingness to bear responsibilities, raise children, and provide for their families. If Sex Is About Reproduction, Why Do Humans Continue Even When Pregnancy Isn’t the Goal? Good question. Other creatures mate solely for reproduction. But humans are the only species that enjoy this pleasure beyond just procreation. Why? Because God designed sex not just for reproduction, but also for bonding, stress relief, and maintaining emotional harmony between partners. This is why, even when pregnancy is not the goal, a couple continues to engage in intimacy regularly. Without this constant cycle of pleasure, emotional connection, and intimacy, relationships would suffer. A woman, after experiencing the pain of childbirth, might never want to go through it again. A man, burdened with responsibilities, might lose his motivation to work and provide. But sex keeps the system running. The Divine Balance God, in His wisdom, has allowed couples the freedom to experience intimacy whenever they desire, with no legal or religious restrictions, as long as it happens within marriage. Both man and woman receive their fair share of pleasure: The man experiences intense gratification, emotional release, and dominance satisfaction. The woman enjoys profound, long-lasting pleasure—up to ten times more than the man. Less effort, greater reward. Sex is not just a biological act. It is a divine gift, a system of balance, and an eternal bond between two souls. #nakupenda #Utom58 #De_NextVerYou #Relationship/Sex

PUNCH Newspaper *The unseen crisis facing Nigerian men (moment Otunba Kunle Akinyele collapsed)* *Message not just for Men alone, but for everyone* 5th May 2025. Ganiyu Olowu *When Otunba Kunle Akinyele, a respected hotelier in Lagos, slumped and died at his wife’s 60th birthday thanksgiving, the nation gasped in disbelief. One moment, he was celebrating life and love; the next, he lay lifeless at the altar of joy*. The video is haunting — *a man gesturing, gasping, reaching for help in a sacred space, surrounded by those he loved but alone in his final battle.* This was not just a death. It was a metaphor of silent suffering, buried exhaustion, and what men have come to normalise in the name of strength. Akinyele’s case is not isolated. It is one of many chilling examples of how Nigerian men, particularly in their mid- to late years, are collapsing under the weight of responsibilities, unspoken pain, and undiagnosed illnesses. According to the World Health Organisation, men in sub-Saharan Africa, including Nigeria, are 2.4 times more likely to die prematurely from preventable causes than women. This alarming disparity is fuelled by cultural and behavioural factors: men are less likely to seek medical help, more likely to suppress emotional turmoil, and often glorify suffering in silence. In Nigeria, cardiovascular diseases, hypertension, and untreated mental health conditions are among the leading causes of sudden deaths in men. So This Happened (215) Reviews Death Of Lagos... In 2019, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya—admired for his strength and spiritual leadership—passed away quietly after years of enduring deep emotional losses and reportedly ongoing health complications. His resilience was legendary, but it masked what many now see as untreated grief, intense stress, and likely silent medical conditions. Then came the sudden death of veteran broadcaster Ayo Oduleye, better known as MC Loyo, who slumped while compering an event in Ibadan. His charm and humour lit up stages, but in the blink of an eye, the microphone fell silent. Just like that. Similarly, the passing of Mr Ibu (John Okafor) in early 2024, after months of battling illness, reminded the country of how many male entertainers struggle financially and physically behind the scenes, putting on a show while their bodies deteriorate. Masculinity, when warped, can become a silent weapon—not just against others, but against oneself. *ENDEAVOUR TO TAKE GOOD REST PLEASE* Globally, the story remains the same. In 2014, beloved comedian Robin Williams died by suicide, a victim of masked depression. And in 2022, cricket legend Shane Warne died suddenly of a heart attack, a casualty of silent coronary disease and an overstretched lifestyle. Yet while statistics shock and headlines haunt, the everyday grind of the average Nigerian man tells an even sadder tale. Take Lagos, Nigeria’s commercial capital—the city that never sleeps, and where many men now barely do. A significant number of working-class men reside on the mainland or in Ogun border towns like Mowe, Ikorodu, Sango Ota, or Ibafo but must commute to the Island for work—a journey that often begins by 4:00 a.m. and ends by 9:00 p.m. on return. This is no exaggeration. Studies from the Lagos Metropolitan Area Transport Authority reveal that Lagosians spend an average of four to six hours daily in traffic—with many men doing these five to six times a week. That is over 1,400 hours a year lost in gridlock—time stolen from rest, from family, from reflection. For these men, the day begins before the rooster crows. They rush into overcrowded buses, endure fumes of frustration, only to return home when their children are already asleep. There is no room for hobbies, hardly any time for checkups, no outlet for pain. Sleep is a luxury. Rest is a myth. And joy is rationed, like fuel in a scarcity season. This modern man is constantly running on empty—physically present but emotionally absent, financially committed but spiritually depleted. And society applauds his hustle, without asking at what cost. The idiom says, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown,” but what if the crown is invisible, made not of gold but of expectations, bills, unspoken grief, and sacrificial silence? Men are praised for providing, for showing up, for being “rocks”. But even rocks erode—silently, slowly, and then all at once. The greatest tragedy is not that they die, but that they are dying unseen. Consider the tragic case of a 42 year old engineer in Port Harcourt who collapsed at his workstation after weeks of working overtime to meet project deadlines. His colleagues described him as “dedicated to a fault”, but his sudden death revealed the dangers of ignoring signs of burnout and hypertension. Another heartbreaking example is the story of a young entrepreneur in Enugu who passed away in his sleep after complaining of chest pains for weeks. Despite his family’s pleas, he refused to visit a doctor, citing his busy schedule and financial obligations. His autopsy later revealed undiagnosed cardiovascular disease—a silent killer that could have been managed with timely intervention. One unforgettable story is that of Samuel Okwaraji, the gifted footballer and patriot who gave everything to his country on the football pitch. In 1989, during a World Cup qualifier against Angola in Lagos, Okwaraji collapsed and tragically died of congestive heart failure at just 25 years old. His life, so full of promises, was cut short under the intense demands of national expectation. The harsh conditions of the game that day, combined with the immense physical and psychological pressures he faced, ultimately proved too much. These stories compel us to ask: What are we doing to ourselves in the name of strength? Why does the world celebrate silent suffering but frown upon seeking help? Dr Salawu Abiola, a psychiatrist at the Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital in Yaba, offers critical advice for men navigating these pressures. He emphasises the importance of prioritising rest, adequate sleep, and regular health checkups. “If you work and die today, someone will replace you at the workplace, but no one replaces you in the family,” he warns. Abiola advocates setting realistic goals, managing time effectively, and creating moments of joy and relaxation amid life’s challenges. He also highlights the need for men to engage in positive activities, such as exercise, hobbies, and socialising with supportive people, to release built-up tension and foster mental well-being. Check your vitals before you check your wallet. Monthly profit means nothing if your heart gives out unexpectedly. Your strength is not in how much you carry but in how well you manage your load. Therapy is not weakness. It is a repair. Just like a car needs servicing, your mind and soul need realignment. Build relationships where you are more than a provider—where you are allowed to cry, collapse, confess. A good name is better than riches, but good health is the foundation of both. As Chinua Achebe once said, “When the drumbeat changes, the dance must also change.” The drumbeat of life today is faster, louder, and less forgiving. Men must adjust their rhythm. Health is the new wealth. Silence is no longer golden; it is dangerous. *Ganiyu Olowu, a public affairs analyst, writes from Lagos*. punchng.com ©️ 1971- 2025 Punch Nigeria Limited *MAY WE ALL LIVE LONG IN JESUS NAME* 🙏 CULLED #olufaderomi #grace